When is it the right time to say I love you??? Options

[avisitor]

When is the right time to say I love you???

I know some men say it as soon as possible .. so they can get into the girl's pants
That isn't what I'm talking about.
I want to know when someone is in a new relationship ...
How do you know when it is okay to say I love you??
And what do you do if the other person doesn't say it back???

Is it a game changer to say these three little words???

[Gideon]

I don't say it unless she says it first. A lot of girls get turned off if you say it too early (your being clingy). So why risk it, just let them do it first.

[Algaion1]

I think if you aren't sure how she'll react i'll kinda of squeeze it in, not so direct but as an indirect comment. Along the lines of; Oh i love being around you.

If you ease in the word Love to other sentences she may not get scared of it.

I like letting them say it first, but if it's been 6 months and your living together, maybe she's waiting for you. Some women will go the other way if you don't say it first.

[ClassicalMusic]

When you know it comes from your heart and not your head

[avisitor]

Often in a new relationship, the woman would ask me if I love her.
I never knew how to answer since they never said it first
Don't want to be the one to open up first only to find that they don't love me
Was I insecure?

Get this ... when I finally do say I love you, I get asked ..
How did you know when you fell in love with me???
Not, I love you too ... but, questions about how I knew it was love????

Women are very smart and I just don't know how to play the game well ...

[AsianFashionista]

There is no perfect time to say "I love you." let your relationship with someone grow over time, at least a few months or more, and if you continually feel just as strong towards that person as from the start, or stronger, and you desire to share this warm feeling with them, then you can tell him/her.

[FutureMan]

When is the right time to say I love you???

I know some men say it as soon as possible .. so they can get into the girl's pants
That isn't what I'm talking about.
I want to know when someone is in a new relationship ...
How do you know when it is okay to say I love you??
And what do you do if the other person doesn't say it back???

Is it a game changer to say these three little words???

Avisitor I am surprised this question is coming from you I thought you were mature and married already.

I don't say it unless she says it first. A lot of girls get turned off if you say it too early (your being clingy). So why risk it, just let them do it first.

Brother Gideon, you got to be a man and gentleman to express your love (saying it first) for a woman you are dating. I don't remember if I or my girlfriend said it first, but we had our ups and down and still show some affection in other ways. I admit to saying love to other female friends too

[avisitor]

Avisitor I am surprised this question is coming from you I thought you were mature and married already.

I am old and married.
But, things are slow here on AF.
Thought I would get some action with this question

With my wife, I didn't hide anything.
Told her that it was love at first sight
and that she had stolen my heart
She thought it was very corny ... so, I was corny ... She married me, right!!

[Gideon]

Brother Gideon, you got to be a man and gentleman to express your love (saying it first) for a woman you are dating. I don't remember if I or my girlfriend said it first, but we had our ups and down and still show some affection in other ways. I admit to saying love to other female friends too

Well heres how I take it, young teen age girls like it when a guy says I love you, same with older women (high 20's +.) Inbetween the two, the girls who kinda just wanna party don't like hearing it as much if its said too early. Like I said it gives the impression of being clingy. So until I grow old enough to where the women I go for are in their older 20's I wont be saying it first. So its all about what they want to hear in the demographic I'm going for.

[Jessyca]

It is never a good time to say I love you unless you are about to marry her or you want to just make her believe you actually do want her...Sadly I truly don't see the point. After you say I love you it will go all down hill for both people and more drama will occur. More fights will say"I thought you loved me" "Why don't you let me do this if I love you"...Blah blah blah...ehh good advice on here would be just screw the I love you part and just don't say it at all.

[KojTusMeHavnim]

I don't say it unless she says it first. A lot of girls get turned off if you say it too early (your being clingy). So why risk it, just let them do it first.

That is true.. makes him creepy and desperate if he says it too soon.

[mastaping]

When is the right time to say I love you???

I know some men say it as soon as possible .. so they can get into the girl's pants
That isn't what I'm talking about.
I want to know when someone is in a new relationship ...
How do you know when it is okay to say I love you??
And what do you do if the other person doesn't say it back???

Is it a game changer to say these three little words???

I think its okay to say it a couple months into the relationship so that way you know for sure if it is real love or just an infatuation... So when you are totally sure it is love, then say it then.
as for your second question i was in this situation I said i love you first but my ex did not say it back, and i was okay with that, i mean i would like to have heard it but also i was willing to respect my ex's feelings. My love for him did not fade one bit just because he did not physically say the words " i love you" to me. Eventually he let it out and admitted it too^^. Though we are not together anymore he can still tell me he loves me, as well as i can tell him. So it was not a big deal when those words are not said, you just have to respect the other person and know that when they are ready and they are sure they will say it back. Then you know its genuine.

I don't say it unless she says it first. A lot of girls get turned off if you say it too early (your being clingy). So why risk it, just let them do it first.

I agree i was in a similar situation, someone i had only known for a few weeks told me they loved me... My response: "no you dont" because i figured it was too soon for them to tell me that. I felt that person was crazy for saying that to me since he really didnt know "Me" at that point in our "relationship".

When you know it comes from your heart and not your head

Exactly this.

[chiuchimu]

I can't stand Americans that say it five times a day then get divorced Next year.


Say "I love you" when it counts.




( If you haven't said it in a few months than saying it out of the blue counts also.)

[Bach]

When is the right time to say I love you???

When she want to make him do the dishes ...

[moryHX]

When you know it comes from your heart and not your head

Amen.

There is really no right or wrong time. And if the guy says it "TOO" soon, and the girl doesn't respond with "I Love You" back then he should have already seen it coming. There really are so many results with "I Love You." The person receiving those words are either gonna 1) get scared, 2) feel awkward, or 3) say it back. If any guy is afraid that the woman they are with is going to reject him or feel awkward after receiving his words of love then take my love story as an example to do away with that fear: Before I got with my boyfriend of 4 years, we talked for about 3 months, then officially got together, and two weeks into our relationship as bf and gf, he said, "I love you." Totally not expecting that from him, what did I do? I stood in his embrace feeling kinda awkward and said dumbly, "Ok." Not like an "Ok...what was that?" but a casual OK. Instead of feeling low or stupid, what did he do? He held me tighter and said cornily, "I know this may be too soon for you, but I just really want you to know that I really do love you. You don't have to say anything back. But I loved you ever since I laid eyes on you." You know, that "love at first sight" shebang. Then a month later, I told him I love him (not because I felt pressured to say it, but because he REALLY showed what he said). So guys, a little explanation as to why you love her that soon would be nice cause it'll ease the tension between the two of you. And following through is usually the expectation (and when I say follow through, I really mean follow through--not for a week, not for a month, but for LIFE!!!!).

[Taln]

Gideon - usually I am in agreement with your train of thought and actually enjoy your contributions, but "same with older women (high 20's +.)"
Can I slap your young @$$ now, or do I have to wait till you get "old". I may need some soju and some good looking guy your age this evening to get over you implying I am beyond old.


As for someone asking if you love them - run! Can we say NEEDY?!?!


I think the best time to tell someone you love them cannot be planned. It's that moment when it just comes out and you are shocked that you actually said it out loud.
If you have to think about whether to say it, the time isn't right.

[mastaping]

I don't say it unless she says it first. A lot of girls get turned off if you say it too early (your being clingy). So why risk it, just let them do it first.

Gideon......
I love you.

[Gideon]

^ TOO EARLY! Awkward... *runs away*

Gideon - usually I am in agreement with your train of thought and actually enjoy your contributions, but "same with older women (high 20's +.)"
Can I slap your young @$$ now, or do I have to wait till you get "old". I may need some soju and some good looking guy your age this evening to get over you implying I am beyond old.

I only said older! I never said old lol, so there should be nothing to be peeved about. I'd date older women, fo sho. I don't particularly like being spanked but if that gets you off.... go for it. hahahaha


This post has been edited by Gideon: Apr 8 2011, 06:30 PM

[Sisi]

I Look at it this way,When you say it, you pretty much jumped!You probably jumped way before you even said it, your feelings could be way ahead of your words.
But we only have 1 life and life is short, so if its worth the risk,and you really feel it at the time and mean it and are willing to jump then say it!

You can keep Love and sex seperate.Not all kinds of love is sexual and you can Love someone and be ready to love them but not ready to touch them I mean as a couple in marriage.
Those two can be kept seperate even if you feel youd love to touch them , theres control.You could Love them as a best friend even if your confused and not know where this is going, you could love them as a potential hope and dream to be your signifigent other.

But then again maybe you should be careful and considerate, if your not sure or if hes married !

[Mizz_Luv3r]

The right time is whenever you feel it. Now, the hard part would be that the person that you say it to, feels the same way....lol