Why are Indian guys so discriminated against romantically? Options

[Zdrav]

Most Indian guys I've seen are tall, with Caucasian features such as big eyes and big noses. Many of them come from cultures that are very friendly, outgoing, and festive (Indian parties are the funnest things ever).

In short, they possess all those characteristics that some Asian guys believe they sorely lack, and are responsible for holding them back in terms of dating success in America. "If only I were bigger, had Caucasian facial features, and didn't come from a strict Confucian heritage... Then I'd be reeling in the babes!"

Yet Indian guys have it worse than Asian guys. This always puzzled me. There was nothing physically holding Indian guys back. Was it because India had no cultural capital? Think of how much of a status boost white Americans and Western Europeans get from their country's perceived status. David Beckham would not be as big a worldwide superstar if he were Slovakian, and neither would Cristiano Ronaldo if he were Moroccan.

So I think a lot of Asian guys who complain should realize that petty physical insecurities are not as important as ethnic/racial social status. Do you agree?

[ElapsePride]

But you must keep this in mind, Caucasian features don't necessarily indicate attractiveness.

E.g, Physically, apart from my own kind, I'm more attracted to white girls(only when they're young, they turn me off BIG TIME when they get to old 20s.), then North east Asians(Koreans, Japanese, Mongolians), some SEA too,
see, most of the people I'm attracted to don't have caucasian features, and I find some some caucasian featured people hideous, look tough and ugly, I bet many feel the same.

some Indians are beautiful, some aren't, so...

This post has been edited by ElapsePride: Aug 25 2011, 10:52 PM

[devils666]

Most Indian guys I've seen are tall, with Caucasian features such as big eyes and big noses. Many of them come from cultures that are very friendly, outgoing, and festive (Indian parties are the funnest things ever).

In short, they possess all those characteristics that some Asian guys believe they sorely lack, and are responsible for holding them back in terms of dating success in America. "If only I were bigger, had Caucasian facial features, and didn't come from a strict Confucian heritage... Then I'd be reeling in the babes!"

Yet Indian guys have it worse than Asian guys. This always puzzled me. There was nothing physically holding Indian guys back. Was it because India had no cultural capital? Think of how much of a status boost white Americans and Western Europeans get from their country's perceived status. David Beckham would not be as big a worldwide superstar if he were Slovakian, and neither would Cristiano Ronaldo if he were Moroccan.

So I think a lot of Asian guys who complain should realize that petty physical insecurities are not as important as ethnic/racial social status. Do you agree?

How is having "caucasian" features a good thing? Women love Black guys but they DO NOT have caucasian features at all. Beauty standards are different in different countries.

I've heard many girls say they hate guys with big eyes because it looks feminine and wierd.

And Indian guys are NOT discriminated romantically. Their own women are loyal to them and they also get a lot of White women.

East Asian guys are the MOST discriminated sexually.

[AsiaticGlory]

My impression was Indians still have arranged marriages. I actually haven't seen an Indian guy complain about not having a girlfriend. All the complainers that I have seen are either East Asian or white.

I agree that Indians are more extroverted on average. People will insult me for saying this but I think the "shy Asian" stereotype has some truth to it. However, I think East Asian women actually do prefer a nerdy introvert especially since a lot of East Asian women are nerdy introverts themselves.

What most people fail to understand is that being an introvert is not the same thing as being a wimp. Even though East Asian women like introverted nerds, they still expect the guy to make a move. At the same time, I noticed that a lot of East Asian women are more attuned to a shy East Asian guy's personality. So they just come over and say "Hi" but of course the East Asian guy still has to be the one to ask her out.

Unlike mainstream society, however, I actually enjoy being the introverted nerd. I am only interested in women of a similar personality as well. Thus, it is one of the reasons why I only like East Asian women.

I don't believe "evil whitey" is screwing non-whites over. If it was that, why do we see a lot of white guys whine about not having girlfriends as well?

I actually have never ever met a black man who complained about not having a girlfriend.

[rahul1000]

I think one reason is the media does not treat we Indians nor East Asian men in the best of light. In many TV shows and such, we Indians are seen
as awkward nerds, such as "Raj" from The Big Bang Theory. They are not seen as "cool", masculine, "girlfriend material", etc.

This post has been edited by rahul1000: Aug 25 2011, 11:06 PM

[samnang]

pretend to be italian and dress like a guido. some white chicks might fall for it.

[Satrai]

I am Indian and I only was discriminated against by Indian girls.

[Zdrav]

But you must keep this in mind, Caucasian features don't necessarily indicate attractiveness.

Exactly! That's my point. Indian guys, in many ways, are just darker-skinned white guys. But they have huge strikes against them because....? That's what I'm trying to figure out. I'm guessing it must be because India has no cultural capital, at least no sexy ones. It's still perceived as a Third World nation with slums and arranged marriages and bride-burnings (Western media loves that one).

I have a lot of Indian male friends, and believe me, they complain about the exact same thing Asian guys too. But white guys don't fetishize Indian girls that much, so out-dating and out-marriage is not as much of an issue with them.

[Southasianguy]

Exactly! That's my point. Indian guys, in many ways, are just darker-skinned white guys.

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I hate to say it, Skin colours make some difference. Features are more important than skin colour, but skin colour is still is something and amplifies your attractiveness.

That's why North Indians/Pakistanis always has it easier than South Indians simply because not only they have caucasion features, they are fairer. This may not be a big deal in the US were tanning is the trend, but in Asian and South Asian culture its always pale skin.

It's still perceived as a Third World nation with slums and arranged marriages and bride-burnings (Western media loves that one).

This could be another reason. This is more common in the US, where most of the stuff they write about India is sort of negative. But the main reason is because they think we Indians are too conservative and only do arranged marriages so nobody even dares to even hit on us in the first place.

But dude you are taking it too far saying Indians being discriminated the most.

I think East Asian guys are discriminated the most by far from what I have seen because their attitude itself is soft/feminine.

Then again, I don't want to generalize my fellow East Asian race.

This post has been edited by Southasianguy: Sep 17 2011, 03:50 PM