Do Indian parents care about their children dating, other ethnicities? Options

[northwestern_stu...]

particularly, east asian?

a lot of east asian, especially korean, parents would disown their children if they didn't marry not only inside their race, but nationality as well.

would pics like these:





be no no?

or are there variations among various Indian groups, like Bengali, Gujarati, Punjabi, etc?

[toki]

XD
that indian guy is hot

[northwestern_stu...]

yes, that korean girl seems to think so

[ExpressYourself]

As liberal and Westernized as my parents can be, inter-racial dating is a no-no. I've seen a lot of Indian families that don't like it when their kids date outside of South Asians.


I don't know what the view is on dating East-Asians, because I don't know any Indian/East Asian couples. But, I will tell you that I haven't heard anything blatantly negative about East-Asians from Indian parents.


I've heard parents talk trash about blacks, latinos and whites. So, I would think marrying an East-Asian would be more acceptable over having their kid marrying a black person.

[ExpressYourself]

XD 
that indian guy is hot

I don't think so.

The last East-Asian guy is cute though. What nationality is he? His gf looks very familar too.

[ExpressYourself]

particularly, east asian?

a lot of east asian, especially korean, parents would disown their children if they didn't marry not only inside their race, but nationality as well.

That reminds me of something my cousin in Nepal told my mom....I don't know if she was being serious though, because it's kind of weird.

My cousin's neighbors were Chinese, and they came to dinner with us when we went to Kathmandu. Apparently, the Chinese guy later asked my cousin if I and her 15-year old daughter would like to marry his nephews..

[northwestern_stu...]

it's frowned upon by mods when you triple post

[jiggyiggy]

I have a bunch of cousin in-laws from various, "other," ethnic backgrounds and it's no biggie in my family, supposedly some huge $hit went down when my mom and dad wanted to get married cuz they kinda had an inter-ethnic marriage or whatever, but that's all water under the bridge now. I think the charector of the person matters most, being educated, progressive, and culturally open-minded is what's important.

[nimbus]

^^i agree...the person's education, social status and job trump race...but i really think it depends on the family...there a few ppl in my family that have married east asians...although they were surprised at first, no one made a bid deal about it...especially since east asian morals and values are generally very similar to those of indians, they got along with the indian family members very well, and were accepted.

but i have heard that koreans, especially korean guys, would have a hard time bringing a non-korean girl home, especially if she was not asian or white. and those girls would have a very small chance of being accepted into that family. but i'm sure that's not always the case.

[northwestern_stu...]

yeah, koreans of the older generation are very concious of their nationality, i think, more so than any other group. also, because koreans are so thinly spread throughout the entire world, it becomes even more of a priority for korean parents to preserve their culture.

[*Karma*]

Ooh he's kinda cute! =D He should shave though =)

Well lets say that my parents won't be surprised if i show up with a non-Indian.
I dont care if my other relatives accept him or not. Its only important to me what
my parents, bro's and sisses think of him.

[Jagger]

Most South Asian parents wouldn't accept inter-marriages with another country or religion, and in many cases, they wouldn't even accept people from a different province, sect, caste, ethnic group, etc.

Of course there are many open-minded South Asian parents but the majority of them still wouldn't accept inter-marriages.

My Bangladeshi parents for example, would only accept marriages with other Bangladeshis, specifically Sunni Muslims from the Sylhet region of Bangladesh.

[agni-to-ignis]

Most South Asian parents wouldn't accept inter-marriages with another country or religion, and in many cases, they wouldn't even accept people from a different province, sect, caste, ethnic group, etc.

Of course there are many open-minded South Asian parents but the majority of them still wouldn't accept inter-marriages.

My Bangladeshi parents for example, would only accept marriages with other Bangladeshis, specifically Sunni Muslims from the Sylhet region of Bangladesh.

yeah thats really true..........i have never seen any indian - chinese couple in more than 2 years.........majority of indian parenst will never accept anyone other than an indian or else u get disowned by the family straight away.......

well not disowned..........but u know what i mean........

This post has been edited by agni-to-ignis: Nov 30 2005, 10:26 PM

[strangeland]

There are exceptions, but for the most part Indians only date other Indians. Among the Hindus, there is often a lot of pressure to marry someone from your caste. Among the Muslims, out-marriage is usually a big no-no.

[ExpressYourself]

Among the Hindus, there is often a lot of pressure to marry someone from your caste.

I don't think inter-caste marriage is a big deal among the Hindu-American community, but that may very well be the case in non-metropolitan India. People over here seem to happy as long as you're Indian and Hindu.

I would say that outside marriage and geographical region issues are still a big deal to the Pakistani Muslims in my town. IMHO, I think they are the most traditional, in comparison to other types of South Asian groups in Chicago.


That's not to say that Hindus, Sikhs or Christians can't be adamantly conservative, however.


It's just that I know more westernized and liberal Hindu families than I know Muslim families.

This post has been edited by ExpressYourself: Dec 1 2005, 03:23 PM

[BiscLimpkit]

I dated a local girl (she was white) and everything was a-ok.

Only problem was that my parents are traditional - they reckoned that I should only see one girl in my life and settle down with her. Both of us were just arsing around tbh, nothing serious. Which is why we're not together anymore.

[toki]

The last East-Asian guy is cute though.  What nationality is he?  His gf looks very familar too.

he was posted in the korean chat. he looks korean too.

[MMF]

Ooh he's kinda cute! =D He should shave though =)

Well lets say that my parents won't be surprised if i show up with a non-Indian.
I dont care if my other relatives accept him or not. Its only important to me what
my parents, bro's and sisses think of him.

LOL darn when I zipped through the pics. I thought that girl was african-american. But when I saw the pic again,lol I see that she's indian.

[ExpressYourself]

They're making an Indian movie about an East Asian man falling in love with an Indian girl.


Starring Jackie Chan and Mallika Sherawat.

[Amazon]

Awwwww. What a lovely picture!!!

Mallika looks absolutely radiant there and Jackie handsome as ever.