Leadership skills: Do you have them?, Can it be developed? is it a natural thing? is it both? Options

[BlueAway]

From my experiences in workplaces so far, leaders seem to have the following qualities:

-when they speak, it attracts people's attention. its either the choice of words they use, how they express their ideas, or just the strength of their personality or combinations of these three.

- a can-do attitude where if something goes wrong, they do not panic and can think of the most practical solution

- has a natural ability to read people and know their strengths and weaknesses and can exploit them for their strengths and limit their weaknesses

I think the mainstream public sees leaders in the business world as the attractive, well dressed guy who speaks well. That's not always the case. There are some exceptional leaders who are socially awkward but when it comes to the job at hand, they have a knack for knowing how to organize and lead people to get the job done in the most efficient manner.

So what is leadership? It seems it takes a special breed of people to be leaders. They have to have the right combination of vision, confidence, natural affinity with people, creativity and temperment. Take away any of these and it won't work.

Can these qualities be developed over time? Are they also specific to the company and your specific circumstance? Perhaps some people can only be good leaders in certain circumstances and settings.

Which qualities does someone with leadership potentail exhibit? Which qualities can be developed over time and experience?

Discuss please.

[deeme2000]

have you ever run into those types that can't help but be a leader? people just naturally look towards them for answers and guidance in most situations?

i first noticed that quality in my bf and that made me want to be more outgoing and the 'go-to' person as well. that's why i think some of it is instinct and some of it you can learn

BlueAway- I hope you do pick it up. Let me know what you think of it!

[BlueAway]

have you ever run into those types that can't help but be a leader? people just naturally look towards them for answers and guidance in most situations?

i first noticed that quality in my bf and that made me want to be more outgoing and the 'go-to' person as well. that's why i think some of it is instinct and some of it you can learn

BlueAway- I hope you do pick it up. Let me know what you think of it!

ah so leadership qualities are attractive to girls too. Damn it!! I need to work on it then. Do you find your boyfriend sexy cause of his leadership qualities? Does it turn you on when he takes command of the situation?

[deeme2000]

ah so leadership qualities are attractive to girls too. Damn it!! I need to work on it then. Do you find your boyfriend sexy cause of his leadership qualities? Does it turn you on when he takes command of the situation?

of course...it's always wonderful to know that regardless of what happens, he can take charge of a situation and get results. and it's the whole package that makes him sexy; he's very charming and charasmatic, but not the type to sit back. i think he's definetely something of a born leader.

[BlueAway]

of course...it's always wonderful to know that regardless of what happens, he can take charge of a situation and get results. and it's the whole package that makes him sexy; he's very charming and charasmatic, but not the type to sit back. i think he's definetely something of a born leader.

Cool. Is he dominating in bed too?

[deeme2000]

Cool. Is he dominating in bed too?

I believe everyone has potential for anything
As a counsellor - that theory has proven true for most cases - the difference lies in determination

I have to agree with the determination theory as well. I started out incredibly shy and reserved, but after some practice and realizing that I really did like being in charge of situations, AND being around the bf (you can't help it when some of that attitude rubes off on you), there are some very interesting and exciting opportunities coming my way. Senior positions are fine, but now I'm being recommended for a management level position and I just can't get over the fact that almost all of the people around me are easily twice my age or more.

When you're put in certain situations, I think it's very easy to determine who will succeed and who can't handle it.

[questionnaire]

I have to agree with the determination theory as well. I started out incredibly shy and reserved, but after some practice and realizing that I really did like being in charge of situations, AND being around the bf (you can't help it when some of that attitude rubes off on you), there are some very interesting and exciting opportunities coming my way. Senior positions are fine, but now I'm being recommended for a management level position and I just can't get over the fact that almost all of the people around me are easily twice my age or more.

When you're put in certain situations, I think it's very easy to determine who will succeed and who can't handle it.

It could be partly because of your education and all those books like 48 laws of powers you read eh eh? You said you were a computer science major? That could be one reason, I hear they often go straight to administrative positions, but I think only if they acquire an MBA as well. I thought you were some Human Resource manager at first or something, cause you said you interviewed people.

[deeme2000]

It could be partly because of your education and all those books like 48 laws of powers you read eh eh? You said you were a computer science major? That could be one reason, I hear they often go straight to administrative positions, but I think only if they acquire an MBA as well. I thought you were some Human Resource manager at first or something, cause you said you interviewed people.

It's HR and recruitment for IT positions. I basically work with companies looking for the right people well directing the grads who are looking for positions. Actually despite the messages in the 48 law of power, I really didn't have to do anything 'underhanded' to succeed.

There are rules that you should look at and know just in case someone's using them against you. the most helpful one would be law 1, Never outshine the master. I did a lot of extra work in the beginning and that rule kept me from trying to overshadow my boss who really wasn't as all 'there' towards the end. but he was a nice guy and we were all honest with him as his team. after he left the responsibility fell on my shoulders and i had to prove that i could handle it despite being so young.

I don't know about going 'straight to admin positions'...they do move on (at least the ones with the right skills) to management positions. who wants to sit behind a desk and code for 8 hours everday? i have friends like that and i'd go insane if that were me.

education is really important, but it all comes down to if you can actually perform and do it under pressure while having an effortless veneer. it can be pretty complicated considering the diff personalities you're around...touch n go and learn along the way.