which part(s) of Asia would you NOT want to live in? Options

[fivers]

actually I wouldn't mind living in any of them since I Asia, but I'd say Mongolia as I'd feel super bored and isolated there..



Edit: oh and of course, North Korea.. (how could I forget lol)

Re-Edit lol: and Papua New Guinea, oooops! (that's Oceania).. I actually meant Irian Jaya, for obvious reasons hahaha

Re-Edit³: I just realized India is in Asia too (am really stupid, I know), so I'll say Bombay, oh! and Afghanistan and Pakistan

Hopefully Last Edit lol: earthquake and tsunami high risk areas i.e. Fukushima.. (thx Yer, geico & Krateros for reminding me lol)


This post has been edited by fivers: Oct 10 2011, 02:35 PM

[rockcrazyboy]

okay...let me make it clear.....a woman's virginity has a great effect on her mentality.

I once had a friend consult me on a case with his girlfriend. His virgin GF broke up with him because he values her so much that he actually refused to sleep with her when she asked him to. After breaking up, that girl got together with another guy and slept with him. Some time later, the girl came back to my friend saying that she missed him and the guy she was with was just hungry for her body. So, my friend asked me how he should treat that girl. I advised him to accept her back since she's seen the error of her ways. They are now happily married for 2 years.

Another case was how a girl had two boyfriends. One of them loved her for real, the other only lusted for her body. She know their minds well but she decided to "do it" with the latter. She got pregnant and then the second guy was gone. So she asked the first guy to marry her without any conviction of regret in doing it. That guy came to ask me about advise and I told him not to marry the girl. If the girl knows how to value herself, then she is worthy of cherishing. If a girl's only cheap enough to "do it" just for the sake of experimenting or enjoyment, she does not deserve the title of a well-raised lady.


Why I care about virginity a lot is that it effects the person's mentality as well as behavior. We are Asians. If you wanna point out about how women are placed as a "thing" to pass around, then you simply cannot get over it. There are things that must be discarded out of tradition but there are also those which must be cherished no matter how much time has gone by. People valuing themselves( both male and female) about their virginity is something that should be cherished until the end of time. I'm not objectifying here. But instead, I'm trying to raise self-control that is seriously lacking in the youngsters all over the world.


When you've already had your first time before marriage, it has some other forms of consequence too. We never can forget about our first, can we? So what if our first and our last isn't one? Who are we gonna be thinking of when we have sex with our spouse? That's one kind of mentality that we seriously need to think about. It feels like betraying to think of another person while in bed with your lawfully wedded spouse. What I'm trying to do is to enforce the mental barriers in even the slightest of issues so that their personalities become much polished. As the buddhist way of thinking, sins committed by the mind are the worst. If you've had experience in sex, then if you like it, you're not gonna just stay sober if your spouse doesn't meet your expectations. You're gonna think back about the time that you enjoyed most. And mostly, people can't control that thought. So they tend to betray, thinking that "it's only once". But then...if you can't stop the thought, you can't stop the actions too. That "only once"s will surely add up to divorce. If we all are virgins before marriage, such kinds of things would never happen. It's how the virginity will support your marriage and your bearing of children.

I've shown examples for countless times that a kid's mentality can be messed up if he knows that his father and mother aren't their firsts mutually. That is, in Asian community of course. We take great pride in such kinds of "physical and mental cleanliness". But the western fate now torments us all. We're seeing non-virgins under 15. The guys and girls would try to "experiment" thinking that "one time won't hurt". And then get us all on trouble with their unwanted pregnancies, STDs and abandoned babies. In my country, the percentage is still quite low. But looking at the possibilities, I thought it be only necessary that we start promoting self-control and self-value.


It's all for the mental aspect and the future of our generations. If you can understand what I've written above, you can understand my obsession about it.