To the people who constantly complain about their looks (hi cloudyski! ):

When you look at yourself in the mirrors and think that you're unattractive, are you comparing your plainness to models and celebrities or to other everyday people?

Comparing yourself to models is just unrealistic and does nothing but dwindles your self-esteem. Hello? They are models because they have talents in the looks department.

For instance, if I compared myself to Jude Law, of course I'm hideous. But if I compare myself to fellow classmates, I'm easily one of the better looking persons in the room.

me too. we are awesome.

Of course.

I compare myself to others in my age group.

Comparing yourself, when you are under 33 years of age and have no obvious deformities, to the general population is just mean. Have you SEEN some people out there? If you compare yourself to them your head will get too big.


All this time I thought you were a girl.

Good thread.

Back when I was in university when I was around a lot of people my age, I felt like crap about my looks. But now that I'm working in a company where there are a lot of 30-40 year old married guys with bellies, I feel a lot better.

davinci = devilish

we're just too lazy to ban him. one of these days when i'm bored, i'll get him.

And I thought you were female. What's your point?


Where do you want to get me?

Lol, anyways, I'm gonna go look at fat, hairy people at the gym.

I hope you won't let youself eat Burger King for lunch every day like I did when I was working with older people. I was like...yeah I don't look at hot as some of the 18-year-olds on my campus but hey at least I'll look better than the office manager even if I gain 10 lbs....and totally let myself go. And then I quit and started a job working with people who are younger than I was, reality hit, and decided it's time for a change.


Oh, no wonder.

You know you're headed to watch tall sweaty white guys do their thang.

comparing is so useless. you know if you look good or bad in ur own perspective, if you look ugly, youre simply ugly.

have you been to wal-mart?

i thought only girls compare themselves to other people

we have so effeminate people here

i compare me with myself, i'll go put on my random outfits with clothes then see which one looks best

fu-k you.

DON'T LIE fu-kING GUY.

if you compare yourself to the average... lol.

so what if you've seen my pic?


what are you suppose to compare yourseslf with?

btw i also thuink going to walmart is an unfair comparison

My mom always compare me to doctors, lawyers, guys in korean dramas, guys in Taiwanese dramas, etc.

Pfft, only morons compare themselves with good looking people.

I compare myself to fat white girls, bald white boys, short ugly geeky looking Asian boys, and old people. That's like food to my ego.

my mom compared me to Katie Holmes the other day

Katie Holmes is pretty. ^_^

^I kinda think she looks creepy

That's because she's married to Tom Cruise.

Prior to that, she was pretty. ^_^

go get raped by a man

1-800-free-love

DaVinci: Hello, You have reached 1-800-free-love where love is as common as water.
TyCooN: What else do you have to offer besides love?
DaVinci: Like OMGZ! I'm that f@g on AF DaVinci. I'll be your SHB11!!!
TyCooN: Right I'll get back to you on that.
*TyCooN hangs up*

I compare my height with that of other girls at school who are around my own age. I'm so short. It's awful. I'm pretty satisfied with my face if I were to compare it to other ordinary people though (but it's also like a roller coaster, sometimes I feel better about myself, sometimes I feel like $hit). But still, that's not saying much.





LOL. I really think I need to start doing what you guys do.

i resent this shout-out jk

*ah-hem* to respond. i don't think i'm unnattractive. i think i could be more attractive, but definitely not UN attractive. aiight. i make a LOT of self-deprecating comments. but really, it depends on my mood. and half the stuff i say, i say just cos i like to talk-

really if i were to have that much low self-esteem. i'd probably be at the surgeons office by now and not online just typing whatever i felt like & spamming af forums. beauty & health are topics that interest me the most... you know how some people like to go on to politics topics and debate everything (flamers), well this is what i like to do.



jude law is = he's a cheater~ and balding too... and dirty looking... like some kind of hobo skank

but thank u, i agree with your idea that people should not try to compare themselves too much to celebrities to the point that it becomes unhealthy obsession. any obsession can destroy u

well heres a thought, how about we all stop comparing, and nobody would be upset with themselves. sometimes the best judge, is simply yourselves.

yeah sure, i see models and go, he/she looks pretty cool, but i wont dwell on it cos i dont look like them.
dress good, clean yourself, whatever, that is great, but who cares if you dont look like Fabio, lol.

we all compare i guess, but i never dwell on it, or am upset about myself. if i were to compare right now, i'd say that i'm really glad i dont look like Jude Law, lol.

LOL i love this line
dress good, clean yourself, whatever, that is great

FABIO? Did this guy just say FABIO? fu-ker is mad ugly.

hmmm... do boys compare their looks with other boys? I would say rarely.
I think its more like comparing who got the newest gadgets,how many pretty girls that they /&%(<u, how fast their cars etc..

his face is on every cover of of those american cheesy romantic novels, he's hot to some people.

yeah but thats like.... 15 years ago...

so what ?
if you think he's not good looking, that doesnt mean the whole world think he's not good looking

he's still fit for someone who's almost 50 y.o
people still like him
he was in Next Top Model once, those girls loved him very much

^Fabio reader.

i am jude law's dad why do you talk $hit about him

yo pops ur sons a ho.




he cheated on THAT woman

makes him dumb-ss motherfu-ker too

meh, who cares who i used, i just thought Fabio was a good example since it popped into my head like that *click*.

Mothers don't have a clear idea of their own children.

Anyways 1 out of about 500 people are "goodlooking". Anyone else might be cute or non-ugly. If you're hot then you're hot, no need to compare yourselves with models, etc. Alot of time you don't neccesarily have to have "perfect features" to be considered very hot, it might be charm or charisma or an aura that you possess.

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It's not good to compare yourself to other people because you are compensating for an illusion as well as being unfair to yourself and the comparisee. It's shallow. It's much healthier and realistic to gauge your own lifestyle and health and wellness as indicators of personal attractiveness. Short, tall, blonde, brunette, pale, dark, skinny to heavy, wear glasses etc. We are all different and unique but its our health that is the most important physically, emotionally, and mentally. When you are healthy, things tend to fall in the right place. And the emphasis and prioritization on important or real deal will sustain you and keep you happier in the long run. Don't take to heart the superficial ideals and fads of the moment, rather have fun with them.

How many people do you see walking around that looks like Jude Law? NOt. Very. Many.

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holy crap, you have high standards!

0.2% of people are good looking to you?

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yea i think people should not compare themselves to others but rather improve upon whatever they have.
its the healthiest. work with whatever ur momma gave u