I know this gorgeous filipino guy who I'm crushing on, and he's feels the same way about me. He moved to the states 3 years ago with his mother and father. His brother is still in the PI. I can tell he wants to get close to me by the way he flirts and looks at me, but he always stops himself from going any further.
We have a mutual friend. I and this mutual friend both think that his family is making him stay committed to this girlfriend that he dated for like 4 years, and then left her in the PI to come to America w/ his parents. They haven't seen each other for 3 years!!! They only occasionally email each other. Yet he still feels obligated to consider her a "girlfriend". I wonder if his parents are putting a guilt trip on him? Why? I don't know much about Philippine culture. Can you guys help me out?

p.s. We've already made out, but he won't even hold my hand in public. He says that filipinos don't show affection in public. Is this true?
Thanks.

private talks and yelling
you're not some kind of slut are ye?

what?

my mum had private talks and yelled at me because i was getting together with a hot slut.

In filipino culture it is the males who have to court the female.

Are u caucasian...if u r...there shouldn't be any problem.

The answer is no, Filipino parents usually dont care whoever their sons are dating so i guess youre ok.

just as long as they rn't black

hahahaha sad but true but not all. My mom even told me "WHy dont you try a black girl for a change?"Lmao
My mom is just too cool

Yes, I'm white. He's also told me that filipinos don't show affection in public. If they do, it means they are really serious, like engaged or married. Is this true? And what do filipinos have against blacks?

LOL my parents wouldn't talk to my sister for months after they found out her BF was black.



thats true filipino families r very conservative

Just one of the legacies that the spanish left us that "White is superior and everything else is enferior". But not all filipino families are like that, specially now they are getting more open-minded.

I think it goes beyond the spanish thing.
All asians r like that....

Latin America was under spanish rule...but hispanics and black people r close like family.

This is interesting. Are you saying that Spanish people are white? I always thought they were Spanish? And what's the difference between being latino and hispanic? What do the Spanish people call themselves?

Spanish people call themselves spaniards.

latino and hispanic r the same thing...they r both west indies/south/central american.

Why are they close like family? Ugh, I'm so confused.

what part of the world do u live????

and how do u not know this

spanish people=from spain; spain= europe
spanish people are europeans not hispanics

we r soooo off-topic

i do not know about filos in the U.S. but here, especially in manila, holding hand is no big deal. PDA(public display of affection) is common, especiallyin the malls and parks. you die of envy if ur alone. uber sweetness everywhere. or maybe i it is just where i hang out?

Im sure lip locking, tounge wrestling action is okay in Manila.


how about the rest of Pinas

Sorry, I know what you mean now. I thought there might have been another reason other than geography.

other parts of pinas. it varies of course. but you'll be surprised, we promdis, are not that conservative. come to bicol, and i'll give you some lovin, bicol express style.

Yes, please, let's get back on topic. I may just have to seduce this guy. I'm tired of his wishy washy behavior.
Also give me some tips on how to really win this cutiepie pinoy's heart. I want him bad, but he's really playing hard to get. If you really give me good advice to snag a filipino male, I'll kiss and tell for you guys as a reward. I'll let you know some of the details of our date.

Ahhh that always work !

edit

don't bother about him. you don't have to seduce me. i'll hold your hands anywhere dear. and carry you in my arms if you're tired.

and don't worry about my parents. their only worry is for me not to grow old alone.






@ michie, oh damn man, ano ito eskrima? thought you were a girl. and we have the same taste when it comes to girls.

Now Listen very Carefully! how to really win this cutiepie pinoy's heart?

Lesson #1: Never Ever tell a Filipino Guy that you like him. In our Culture, Males must be the first to say "I like you", "I Have a big crush on you", or the magical word "I love You".

It is a turn off for a guy if you say that. Filipinos don't like easy to get Females.

Lesson #2: If your with him, make him feel he is important, in filipino culture we always ask to our visitors, friends and family members "kumain ka na ba?" meaning "Are you Hungry?", then afterwards, you can offer him something preferably a SANDWHICH that you prepared OR ask him to go to a restaurant/burger stand etc. for a snack.

If it is hot, and you see him sweating, offer your handkerchief. that shows that he is important to you and that you are concern about him. got it?

Lesson #3: Always carry something Heavy, like a Bag, Books etc.. Filipino Guys are Gentlemen, He will probably help you carry your load, if not, then ask him in a nice way if he can help you carry, probably he will not decline to help you out.

then you could ask him if it is ok if he could escort you home, if he says YES, you scored
Don't FORGET to give him Thanks. Or give him something like a gift but not too expensive, A give that has a meaning, a symbolical gift like a Lucky Coin or something.

Lesson #4: Always Smile when he is around, Be yourself, Tell Jokes (Good sense of Humor not GREEN JOKES), you need to be AFFECTIONATE, show your FONDNESS and TENDERNESS, you need to be UNDERSTANDING, and Most of all YOU MUST KNOW HOW TO COOK.

^^^^ This is the reason Why a lot of Foreigners wan't to Marry a Filipina

Lesson #5: COOK FOR HIM, lets say you research for a Filipino Dish, I Suggest "PORK ADOBO", and let him try on it, of course he will ask why are you doing it, just tell him you wan't to Marry a Filipino someday, and Probably serve him the Best AMERICAN PORK ADOBO.

^^^^^^ It will sound like a joke, but he is a Stupid Dumb Fool, if he don't understand the message.

That's ALL for Now! I Ran out of Ideas!

Anyone Please Help this POOR guy, She's in Dire need of our Help

BAKA MAGPATIWAKAL Mahirap na!

^ Thanks. You say be affectionate? He doesn't like that in public, but anyway, I'll feed his male pride and trick him into taking the lead.

Hey are you online? very quick response.

of course don't do it in public. it even irritates me, holding hands is just fine but kissing in public, no way

good luck...!!!

*edited
He's also a few years younger than me. You think that's a problem?

it depends on the person, for me I like to be the Dominant one and when Im Tired, I wan't her to Dominate.


Hihihihihihihihi!

Get to know his family. Best time to do it is during family gatherings like birthday parties, baptism parties, heck, even during the SuperBowl party.

Show him that you can eat Filipino food.

Know what dialect he speaks, he knows Tagalog (Filipino) for sure, but there are several other dialects spoken in the PI depends on the region he was from.

Once you find out if he's Tagalog, Ilocano, Bisaya (Cebuano) or Kapampangan, etc...let us know, I'm sure there are Pinoys here in AF that could teach you a few words or phrases of that particular dialect.

That would give him the impression that you're open and comfortable enough to learn about his cultural background.

Thank you.^

good luck sweetie pie

love talk eh? damn i dont wanna talk bout this at the moment.

goodluck tho rosepetal!

OHHH! God, my parents would kill me if i was GETTING INTIMATE WITH SOME CHICK in front of there EYES..I know how he feels..

Well about our culture..We certainly love DANCING AND SINGING..So even if you can only do one of those, thats good enough. But yeah, you gotta maybe SEDUCE HIS PARENTS AS WELL MAYBE?? And umm Moral and ethics are very important. Someone i knew dated a STRIPPER..He got soo much $hit from the Filipino parents.



Only FOBBY Filipinos have that mentality..The ones living in the Western Countries don't give a $hit!

Your white female you'll have no problem with his parents. I never had problem bring home any white females home even if they just friends. They just me nod and get lost. I had more trouble with other types of females with my family.

Yeah you just need to seduce the dude. isolate him and have fun with him just do private stuff with him. just show him you care about him.(works for me every time)Get closer to him first then his family. Aim for the moms the dad would be ok for sure with you. you'll be ok.

Sh*t, I'm a little upset with him now. He only wants me as a sex partner. He doesn't want a relationship. Damn, how disrespectful.

it seems like he's not serious about you and just flirting with you. if he has a girlfriend in philippines but had constant communication, he must be still serious about his gf. my brother has also a gf in phil. it has been a long time too since they've seen each other.



be hard to get too. don't be too available. one of my guy cousin broke up with his first gf because she was just too easy to get. they tend to get serious with girls that they can't have.





shucks this is belief has long been dissolved...baka ikaw lang ang nagiisip yan...




be hard to get. there is also a common notion that white females are not the wife type...after 5 or 7 years, they divorce.

i didn't answer your question, they wouldn't intrude straightly or directly. but from time to time, they would give advice or they would tell that they don't like this person, but in such a secret way.

oh $hit cut his balls off serve it him as balut

At least there are no strings attached.

Just pure carnal delight, and none of the complications often associated with being in a relationship.

Eh ano ba sabi ko? yung iba lang. pffft ako lang nagiisip.

i wanna have a pinay gf sooo bad!!!

go to the Philippines and tell them u from the canada/the states

they would be lining up to marry u

I don't give it up to people who don't have any respect for me. I'm not going to be his back door whore.

GIRL POWER! So what cha plan?? still gonna be friends??

but you knew he had a girlfriend sooo in a way you were disrespecting her as he was disrespecting her then you.....lol sounds like the guy is not worth it...unless thats all you guys want to do is be F'buddies lol.

As far as the how to date a filipino?? Some sounded like we are puppies or something lol. Make sure you spank its nose when he poops on the floor type stuff lol.

thats something i would never do. i dont like getting advice from kapusux like u!

Hes clearly taking advantage of your affections...ditch this loser.