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Jagger
QUOTE(Sabretooth @ Mar 11 2007, 09:19 AM) [snapback]2783470[/snapback]

Define "success rate."

If by success you mean the typical worldwide arranged marriage practice of producing kids with your arranged ma€te, and finding actual FUN with mistresses, then yeah, I guess they are "successful."

However, if you mean that the people are actually really, really happy to be together, I would doubt that.

I think he meant low divorce rates.
jatt_with_gutts
QUOTE(Henry123 @ Mar 10 2007, 09:53 PM) [snapback]2782715[/snapback]

What is consider "moral" or what is "immoral" is a social construct.
Its a whole philosophical debate on its own. Its never ending.
Its like those debates with various religion. Its never ending.

thats the sort of thinking i m afraid indians will develop by blindly copying western culture... they will question morality and fail to understand the differernce between animal culture and human culture.

QUOTE(Sabretooth @ Mar 11 2007, 04:19 AM) [snapback]2783470[/snapback]

Define "success rate."

If by success you mean the typical worldwide arranged marriage practice of producing kids with your arranged ma€te, and finding actual FUN with mistresses, then yeah, I guess they are "successful."

However, if you mean that the people are actually really, really happy to be together, I would doubt that.


lol.. only few perverted rich guys have mistresses to procreate outside their wedlock. this happens everywhere. it has nothing to do with arrainged marraiges. this happens more in western socities actually cause they tolerate and encourage it. i dont why people in west are so brainwashed with concept of arrainged marraiges. people with arrainged marraiges usually end up with better lives than love marraiged ones. divorces are more common among love marraiged couples.
ACMILAN1983
QUOTE(Sabretooth @ Mar 11 2007, 09:19 AM) [snapback]2783470[/snapback]

Define "success rate."

If by success you mean the typical worldwide arranged marriage practice of producing kids with your arranged ma€te, and finding actual FUN with mistresses, then yeah, I guess they are "successful."

However, if you mean that the people are actually really, really happy to be together, I would doubt that.


I think you're missing the point as to what an arranged marriage is mostly considered to be nowerdays. It's not to force two people into wedlock, but to introduce them and let them decide what they want to do. Most arranged marriages are done with the consent of the two getting married after they get to know a great deal about each other. The higher success rate is probably partly to do with a lot of work being done beforehand to see how compatible the couple are. Not only is it to see if they're compatible, but also the families, which Indians place a lot of emphasis on.
Jagger
QUOTE(ACMILAN1983 @ Mar 11 2007, 11:39 AM) [snapback]2783571[/snapback]

I think you're missing the point as to what an arranged marriage is mostly considered to be nowerdays. It's not to force two people into wedlock, but to introduce them and let them decide what they want to do. Most arranged marriages are done with the consent of the two getting married after they get to know a great deal about each other. The higher success rate is probably partly to do with a lot of work being done beforehand to see how compatible the couple are. Not only is it to see if they're compatible, but also the families, which Indians place a lot of emphasis on.

I think it's mainly because an arranged Desi couple would generally be more willing to put more effort into making a marriage work even if they don't like each other, due to several factors such as divorce being strongly discouraged and often looked down upon in Desi culture, aswell as more emphasis being placed on the collective happiness of the family rather than individual happiness.
Henry123
QUOTE(jatt_with_gutts @ Mar 11 2007, 06:32 AM) [snapback]2783563[/snapback]

thats the sort of thinking i m afraid indians will develop by blindly copying western culture... they will question morality and fail to understand the differernce between animal culture and human culture.

But "human culture" varies.
Some cultures accept polygymay as normal others do not. Some cultures do not accept vegetarianism. Other cultures do not accept the eating of pork. Other cultures accepting the eating of cows as being acceptible. Other culture accept the wearing of turbins others do not. Others believe women should be cover from head to toe and not show any skin other than the eyes and hands. etc etc


Some will also argue that so called "animal culture" (as you put it) is Natural culture. And that so called "human culture" is Un-natural.
eg Some philosophers would also argue that prearrange marrage is un-natural because it goes against the laws of natural selection. etc etc The philosophical arguments never ceases.

jiggyiggy
Even though I do think arranged marriage is misunderstood by foreigners, I don't think divorce rates have anything to do with arranged marriage. The fact that a marriage is arranged or not doesn't help determine if it will lead to a divorce. The thing is, it would be scandalous in India for someone to want to get a divorce with their spouse because it's basically more or less like abandoning your family.



QUOTE(Sabretooth @ Mar 11 2007, 05:19 AM) [snapback]2783470[/snapback]

Define "success rate."

If by success you mean the typical worldwide arranged marriage practice of producing kids with your arranged ma€te, and finding actual FUN with mistresses, then yeah, I guess they are "successful."

However, if you mean that the people are actually really, really happy to be together, I would doubt that.


kekeke mistresses, dude just exit this discussion before I make an @$$ of you.
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