How do korean parents veiw their children dating americans? just curious.

Depends on the parents~

Mine... as long as I don't bring home dark skinned girls, she doesn't care too much. *sweatdrop*

Heh, my parents would hate it if i dated any one other than Korean girls... It's a Korean thing I guess. 0_o

Well, its a korean thing to preserve as much of practically anything korean. The language, the customs, the clothing, etc. Even the most liberal korean parents would be zealous to preserve something.


With that said, my dad doesn't care what race korean-americans date, but, he cares who koreans in korea choose to date. Why the differance?

Because he believes america is a land of opportunity for all races, they can do whatever they want. But in south korea its a homogenous nation.

They don't care what I date as long as I marry a korean or half korean girl....(I've asked about the half lolz)

I guess this is one of the many ways we are similar. I am african american and my mom would hate it if I dated a girl who wasnt.

My dad would have no problems with me being with someone outside my race. He'd be a hypocrite if he did.

How sad..indeed...I love trying to make friends from different cultures....as you can see I said trying...even in america in the city I see a lot of grouping....

My parents don't mind me dating Americans, as long as they're korean.

They can't stand seeing their children date americans. They just can't accept it.

taken directly from My Xanga entry dated: 8.22.04

Yah, I kinda understand how you feel. I used to hate it when my dad told me I have to marry a Korean girl when I grow older. Well now I kinda understand. A Korean girl would understand our culture better, and it would be a lot more comfortable taking a korean girl to family get to togethers and stuff. You might change your opinion later on.

Dare you to say that infront of dark skinned person.

Lol obviously he wouldn't and probably won't ever say it in front of a dark skinned person. This is the reality of racism. Nothing too emtional about it, it is everywhere! Anywhere!

i dont think its just koreans but all asian cultures


they want you to marry in your own race


im sure its the older generations, but as time goes by, i bet this wont be a big issue, as long as your not from korea


HAHAHAHAHA

My parents would probably kill me if I dated anyone besides Korean. She said she'll find me a man when time comes. lol. It's probably because they want korean kids and let the 'koreans' live on. Instead of having a half caucasian or half whatever. Mixing up our bloods and everything will be different in the next generation and so on after that.

But it's definitly not just the Korean Parents.

Quoted for truth.

It's pretty much every country outside of North America. Some more than others - but I know I've gotten the same thing from my family and relatives (Polish). People in Canada don't care.

Also: Korean girls in Korea seldom tell their parents that they're dating a foreigner. They'll only break the news to them well after it's too late (ie. plans for marriage). Speaking from personal experience - I found that they may be unhappy at first, but they'll come around after a little while (especially if you have money/are successful/etc). It does take work. Ultimately, Korean parents (all parents!) are mostly concerned with the welfare of their children - if you, as a foreigner, can prove to them you can take care of their son/daughter well than you're more than halfway there. Learn a bit of the language and culture (especially the humour!) and you're golden.

I think it's easier for a foreign guy dating a Korean girl than a foreign girl dating a korean guy. I have some friends... and the parents just trample the girls... well, try, anyways! It definitely takes a strong girl (and devoted bf!) to survive it. If the guy always sides with his parents, it's pretty much the signal of impending doom.

well i dun know about korean parents
but my parents dont care who i date just as long as they are asian

sadly most races/nationalities apparently still go for this sort of thing...hispanic people ar just like this and god forbid you date/marry someone not from ur same nationality (even if they are from another spanish speaking country) ... thank god my mom is not like this and most of my family doesn't interfere and the ones that do I don't give a ccr@p what they think lol

but yeah I have friends from India complaining about the same thing and my hispanic friends are always telling me how their parents always want them to marry a person NOT ONLY HISPANIC but from the same nationality....and the excuse is almost always the same...that someone from a different nationality will not understand their culture very much...whatever lol

personally I'd prefer my children to marry koreans if i were a parent, but just "prefer", aint gonna force it on them

in Asia, i think the countries with a more "closed" culture are the Koreans and the Japanese...correct me if i am wrong though.

^ thats very interesting cause correct me if im wrong


and im just pointing to history


but didnt china close themseleves off for 2000 years until they were FORCED to trade with the americans?

My parenst don't mind me dating an American, since I myself am an American.

well...first off...im chinese w/ american nationality, and i currently live in hong kong. There are a number of koreans in my school and the guys seem generally friendly people; of course this is just in terms of friendships. But when it comes to relationships, i do belive that koreans are really uptight about dating other koreans.

My best friend used to be a korean. the thing i rem most about him was that, while the rest of us were going for all types of girls, black, white, asian...he would only date or express interest in a korean girl.

In terms of my own personal experience, i ve always found that korean girls prefer korean men. apparently, i look slightly koreanish...so smtimes korean girls might look like theyre interested in me...but after knowing that i am actually chinese, they tend to turn cold and responseless around me.

Since younger Koreans are so concerned about keeping the homogenous state of their people, one can only conclude that korean parents tend to teach their children from a young age not to intermarry w/ ppl of other ethnicities. Thats my view on it.

My parents wouldn't care if I dated a Martian, but they would probably disown me if I dated a Christian.

My parents don't care about race...

I broke up with my g/f because I didn't want to deal with her issues dealing with her parents Among a few other things.

well it will differ for every family. but koreans are sorta generalized in korea to have negative views on americans. "the american men are here to rape our economy and use our women" is a stereotype about americans in korea as portrayed by many parts of media, etc. and stereotype american women as "less feminine" than korean girls. and since the two korean girls were killed by american tanks and there was an uproar of that, american-korean relations are a bit tricky.

remiinder: these are just stereotypes.

now it really depends on teh individual family. but in korea, those are some of the stereotypes.
personally, my family will obviously be very upset if i married anyone besides korean...

My parents don't care what race I date.

But damn, I didn't know the average Korean parents were more racist than Stormfront.

Ok, when Korean family move to America or Canada, generally parents don't like their kid to hang out with other Korean kids. In other word, they want their kids to blend into the new culture. However, when the kids get old enough to marry, the parents want them to marry a Korean no questions asked.

I just find it ironic that why did they leave Korea if they think preserving korean heritage is that important?

there are more reasons than that to leave. my family opened businesses here. yu can still maintain your culture and heritage when not in the motherland. korean pride is in the heart

man that sucks Jasel....I would hate to have to give up on someone I love b/c of parents. i mean you're not dating her parents...... is there no way you two can reconcile? was she 2nd generation or 1st?

@toki yeah, you're right these are just stereotypes. i remember when they had all those signs up in Korea about "americans not welcome here" after those two girls were run over by tanks. too bad since everyone was so excited about the world cup that no one even talked about those girls until it was election time

as for koreans not wanting their offspring to marry americans.....man i just don't see that mentality. during my visits to korea i never heard anyone voice any negative opinion about my wife and I dating. her parents are really 'traditional' but they're sitting here in my house eating seaweed soup and generally having a good time with their foreigner son-in-law. i really can't imagine that any korean parents would be so cruel as to cause problems, or difficulties with their son/daughter's choice on who to date. i think it's xenophobic, ethnocentric, thoughtless unfair and just plain mean. are my parents upset that they're going to 'mixed' children? hell no! are her's?? nope.

it upsets me to hear that so many parents could be so insensitive to the wishes and desires of their children to let something as arbitrary as race play a role.

It's not racism if they don't think their culture/ethnicity is superior to others.




Really not that different from Italian-American or Jewish-American or Indian-American, etc. (have to be w/in same caste or even clan) families who want their children to marry within their ethnicity in order to preserve their ethnic culture.

Do Asian parents frown upon their children dating Afrio-Americans?

ive known many korean parents who do

from what i've heard....big time. that's like still really taboo over there.

What if he was half Korean?

theres only one way to respond to that:

you have a girlfriend already.

Always gotta spoil it, what makes you think I mean me, might just be a question I felt like asking, so would they be pissed off?

hmmm sure you were talking about "other people" hence the " " indicated right after your first comment

answering your question: my family might still object but i dont really know yet

I could have been.
Damn, hard to please.

tehe

so is this 'best friend' of yours korean?

I suppose getting your father drunk on soju so he spills family secrets wouldn't work right? Not that I've done that before or anything......

i will discuss matters of my best friend with you in PM tomorow. i gotta go to sleep. its gettin hard to type . im sleepy. good night

She's 2nd generation. And I'm not going to waste my time.



One of the reasons I broke up with her. I'm pretty sure her parents would put her in a pick and choose posistion and I didn't feel like dealing with it.