Hi, I am new here. I have a problem and dilemma. I met one Mongolian woman here in Los Angeles. I am Chinese-American. The problem is she is married to a Korean man and they live in Koreatown. I am sure she married him to get a visa to America. I met her in a government agency where I worked. The first time she saw me, I could tell she had an interest. I talked to her and found out she was from Mongolia. I said a few words to her in Russian (that I learned). I told her she was beautiful. When she found out I was Chinese, first she did not want to speak much. But, later I took her to lunch near the beach. It was her first time to see the beach.

Soon, we had a sexual relationship. I am VERY POSITIVE, her husband does not treat her good. I suspect he probably hit her and treat her like a slave. She is now pregnant. I am not sure who the father is? There is part of me who want to end this relationship because I think it is dangerous. But, in my culture, we cannot abandon our children no matter what the problem is. She does not know who the father is either. her English is not good, so I can never understand this woman. Maybe I should leave because I think it is just a sexual relationship that would not last long?

What about in your Mongolian culture? What would you do in this situation?

thank you for the help and advice.

From sounds of things she got involved in an abusive relationship mate out of this whole 'better life in America' ideal, it's her decision and she has to deal with the consequences.

There's not much advice we can give ya either than common sense, if you want to get involved with someone's marriage... it will be your decision and your consequences in which you have to deal with too.

Trust me, she is one of those we called "chucka".
First of all, she shouldn't have married with that coward just to get visa. There are plenty of guys she could choose, and she well.
Besides if she isn't comfortable with his fakish kinda husband, she can leave him at anytime. Helloo This is America (not korea)

I would say she needs to learn how to deal with people and how to live. Think outside of the box.

And i think you should make her understand that in america, it is full choice. If she chooses stay with you, and you are comfy with it, then congrats

if she is stupid enough to stay with him, well then... it is her decesion. Btw, what is her name?

After baby come out, you should take that infant with you to hospital and make blood test to make sure if you are his(her) supposed father. If you are his father, you must be responsible for that woman and your baby.

Cathay = Kidan
Ren = Person
CathayRen = a Kidan person
Kidan = Mongol brothers
So Cathayren, are you a Chinese Mongol?

Does it really matter if she married for visa or money, one way or another you have many chinese and koreans doing the same.
If you think the baby is yours, you only made things worse and before it gets ugly don't see her again.

Well that would depend on what she wants to do. If she is going to keep the baby and you feel that this child could be yours then you need to get a blood test done. If you find out the child is yours you need to step up and be a man about it. If you think she is in an abusive relationship you need to get custody of your child. Oh and btw get a translator so you can talk with her without any confusion