How many of you indian guys out there routinely do well with non indian girls?

why does it matter?

i've dated an indian guy and has indian friends so.. mm. lol they are pretty fine

Why? Looking for some tips? lol

Lol why do people get so defensive about a question like this. I am an Indian guy and generally I like white girls, or girls that are mixed more in terms of pure looks. Not to say I don't like Indian girls but I am just wondering whether any guys on here do well with girls that aren't Indian? I ask because when I go to the bar/club the only people I see usually failing are like those sets of 2 or 3 indian guys juz wandering around looking creeper, or i only see a group of indian guys with some indian girls. I don't see a whole lot of anything in between.

No one was being defensive. If you want a white girl, why don't you ask one out? If you're not that good-looking, don't aim too high.

And if you look like this, don't even try lol

http://marlinspikehall.files.wordpress.com.../08/image56.jpg

lol, what? wait? someone here was being defensive?


sidenote:
I don't get why white people are put on the pedestal of what to aim for. they're humans just like anyone. just date who makes you happy without belittling anyone.

* actually, it's pretty cool how you say "non-Indian" instead of the usual white...

i get what you're saying. let's see who replies.

I didn't mean everyone was being defensive...this type of question, for a lot of people, leads to the "self-hate, other races on pedestal issue" and the actual question gets skirted around by people looking for the "deeper meaning". Defensive might not of have been the appropriate term.

This is not a for me question...i've dated white girls, indian girls, mix girls, models, chubbies all of the above. I am completely happy with myself and my Bollywood level of attractiveness :-), and know what I like physically and personality wise in girls I am just curious about everyone else's experiences.

sidenote: looks don't matter as much as proximity, availability, and luck. I see indian guys with white girls all the time but it is from having class, work, etc something with them where they get to know each other. My question is more for the random at the bar, or club scene...do any of you indian guys go out and routinely do well with non indian girls>?

you have to admit,most of the time, that is just the case, though. it's particularly white worship. what about the hispanics, blacks, asians, even the fellow desis etc?

i'm not a guy, but I've seen it happen a couple times, if that's what you wanted to hear. i think any guy has the potential to do well with a race other than his own if he carries himself right. i think it is harder for a minority guy, though. but if he overcomes the negative stereotypes (and the people who live by stereotypes are those who haven't met people of a certain kind), he should do fine =-)

i don't think it's a big deal if a person chooses to or not to date inter-ethnically.

How old are you? B/c you remind me of a younger version of me.

yeah? i'm 18i

Yeah I used to talk like you when I was 18.

Isn't that a given? And I do think looks have to do with it. All the Indian/desi guys with attractive non-desi girls here are more westernized, taller and better looking.




Oh... nevermind, you should ask the older guys here.

I hope not, my wife wouldn't be too pleased if I did

to answer seriously, I've had non-Indian ex-gfs. There's no real difference in ethnicity beyond the obvious (looks and culture).

^ Welcome ac. Looks like after marriage you got very busy. It is understandable.

It is not too hard for anyone to do well with anyone else. If one is comfortable with others religion, culture and family then it's fine. But I have seen that most Indian guys in particular are under added pressure from their families to marry a girl from their own culture, region and religion.

yeah, same with the girls. apparently i'm told it's more acceptable for the indian male to bring home a non-indian bride than it is for an indian female to bring a non-indian male home? ??.

and you're right about the first part.

Yeah, b/c the kids are assumed to carry the dad's last name and some Indians don't put any importance on what the mom is.

Thanks, I am busy, but also because I got a new job, and also a new house. Busy times

I agree with you, outside pressure is usually a big factor in sticking with "our own".

i could have married a gori if i wanted but i married a desi girl n i am happy

Well let's put it this way, I do really well in the bar scene with non-desi girls however as a poster above said....you have to overcome a lot of negative stereotypes and sometimes I'm not really sure it's worth it. I don't bar hop often either since I don't like the kind of people bars generally attract (desperate casual sex types).

Most desi guys who hook up with white girls generally hook up with the hood rats. The ugly chicks no white guy wants. The flip side is true for desi girl/white guy couples where the girl will be a 10 and the guy will be a 6 at best. Same goes for asian/white couples.

To pull a good looking white girl as a minority, you have got be basically a stud w/ looks,education, and money.

The exception to this rule would be middle eastern men who basically look like white guys in a lot of ways and thus find it far easier to date white girls.

I don't find white women to be the paragon of beauty like a lot of indians do though....way overrated and too spoiled and materialistic to generalize a bit. I used to work in a neighborhood filled with rich upper class white families and you wouldn't believe the type of women I encountered. Absolutely obnoxious and conceited with a giant entitlement complex especially with "teh darkies".