My friend found out recently that she is pregnant. They sad part of it is that her boyfriend dumped her for a white girl he works with. She's very depressed and she doesn't know what to do. I tried to help her out but it's not working... She cries all the time. and he doesnt even care. He doesnt care if she keeps it or gets rid of it. He said that it would only be 17% of his paycheck if she keeps it and he's not worried. She can't do this alone... She doesn't really have the money for the abortion either... and she's pro-life so she doesnt want to. He is the biggest creep ever. How should I help her? She went crazy... She wants to kill the white girl... I feel so helpless... HELP?

Why get involved

I think y'all help her with the abortion, she already sounds like a rotten parent, crying over a man who doesn't want her or the child, can you see what I see? Looks like she'll resent her unborn child, if she does keeps it, I do hope she'll change for the sake of the child. A child is not going to keep the man around. It's true. She best act fast before she ruins anymore lives!!

She was really excited when she found out... She thought he would be too, but then he dumped her for a white girl.. he has no heart...

is she a SE asian?

yes... she's hmong...

Hm. I don't see what race has to do with it but hey, anyway.

The only kind of support that you can give her is moral. You can't really give no one advice like that because it's all up to her. One of my friends got pregnant like that but she got an abortion cause the guy dumped her or something. But if she was my friend I'd tell her striaght off to stop crying, it's not going to do anything. She can do it alone, I hate when girls think they need a man in their life. He's the one who left her, so, he's the one whose missing out. Sucks to be him. >>

hmm...im not really sure what i would do if i ever got pregnant...but ill tell you what...does her parents know about this?...cuz if so they could either be the good parents they're suppose to be and help her out or just disown her right off the bat...my step sis got pregnant...shes very independent...no man to help her out on her bills...the babies daddy dropped out of her life after he found out she was pregnant...those rotten low life guys...ughh...how old is she by the way?...

yea sure, let her have the baby so someone else can raise the kid while mom go party. The man is not happy I'm sure he doesn't want nothing to do wit it. The guy has a say to it too yea her body she can do what she wants, but the guy doesn't want baby! Do what's right but make sure if she has kid - kid better be the first on her mind! Having a baby is not like owning dolls, they are for real and raising a kid on your own is HARD very HARD! Ask me about it, I adopted a kid that was abused and neglected and I'm doing this for the sake of his future. because he has rotten parents! I HATE IRRESPONSIBLE KIDS having KIDS, that's not COOL!

Since she is pro-life and also doesn't sound like mentally prepared for parenting, the only solution is give her baby up for adoption..

tell your friend to raise that god damn kid so he wont rob me in ten year from now :genius:

should have done some research before sleeping with that dude...thats what happened when you dont do your homework :genius: dumbass

leave the baby at a hospital within 72 hours of birth

OH Yeah "ADOPTION" so other people can torture the baby if baby don't find permanent home they get bounced around until he's an adult and committing crime sprees. I saved ONE BOY from being bounced around, when he was in foster care, every Friday when I go get him for the weekend he had ring worms on his head plus dingy clothes that "YOU" know was hand me downs. I SCREAMED BLOODY MURDER AT ACS and the other foster parents that as of Dec/2003 they allowed me to have him WHILE the adoption IS STILL in process, at least he doesn't get ABUSE NO MORE. Think about the baby's future; Either have the baby and put its needs FIRST or either way abortion, foster care, same CHIT!!


"Now imagine how many UNFORTUNATE babies that wasn't fortunate to find loving people and permanent homes!!"

i hope the girl doesnt think having that baby will hold the guy down.

You gotta give her little time to grieve and then snap her back into the daunting truth of her sitchy.

Tell her to go to someone whos experienced in this matter. Í heard there is a group therapy talking about this matter where u meet other in the same situation and the one after and there u also can talk to a person with some knowledge about this.
But if u want ma thought about this , if shes unable to live with a life with a baby she should abort it (teenager, problem with drugs etc) or she could choose to have the baby and try to live happily. She might find a new man or life will just fix itself but i highly doubt it.

Ohh hell no....this fool dumped his hmong gilr for a white girl....fu-king b!tch
@$$ pussy....$hit heartless muthafu-ka.....

dang girl just tell your homegirl to come to me....$hit i'll promise to be
the one for her $hit.....

and is that muthafu-ka hmong if he is give me his name so when
the july 4th comes up and i find this mofo im gonna hunt him down
and skin him alive....and cut of his head....cause if he hmong
he a fu-king disgrace

Life is a @##$ isn't it?I'm willing to help anyway i can and uh....say to her that "somebody from AF does care." Hope, she make a wise decision.

As for me... if that happened to me, i'll keep my baby. To hell with my boyfriend! Let him suffer in anguish when he saw how beautiful baby can be and he couldnt touch him nor will know him as a father.

Its only her who can decide what she wants for her life or what she wants to do with her baby, either abort or keep it. And in your case, all you can do is to support her in whatever decision she cause to feel.

IhateYOU, please tell me where her boyfriend lives. I will gang up my team to his house,

Ermmm, I suggest she should find out if the health insurance pays for the abortion at her boyfriend's work.

Well.. he's not hmong... He's chinese. She loved him a lot, and it seemed like he loved her too.. but he was very overprotective and controlling... he would'nt ever let her hang out with us... She's 17... She said that she doesnt care about him anymore and all she cares about now is the health of her baby. I know her parents will be there for her even though they're gonna be pissed at first...


That mean a lot... All I can do is be here for when when she cries... and be the best friend I can be.



I wish she did go for a hmong guy.. maybe he wouldn't have hurt her so much... or much less, a better guy... everyone screws up...

She had so much going for her... She was gonna go to college and everything. I guess when Life throws us curves we have to work around it...
She doesn't wanna put her baby up for adoption, cause she worries they wont be able to love the baby as much as it needs.. She said that it needs all the love it can get and from it's mother... She understands what that guy is gonna be missing out on...

oh those lil guys look so menacing

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Crisis Pregnancy Centers are a valuable resource for women in need.

They provide financial and emotional help for unwed mothers, as well as pregnancy testing and adoption information. Some of them even have sonogram machines so girls can see what their baby looks like.

They will be listed in any moderately sized or larger city's yellowpages under Abortion ALTERNATIVES -- meaning alternatives TO abortion.

Allow a baby to live, and exercise its fundamental right to life.

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Thank God she's keeping the child.Well, update on her status and the baby to will ya??Wish them two the best of LUCK!!

It doesnt sound like she should do an abortion because she seems very excited to have the baby and anyway some people change after they give birth and the baby comes first, i have seen it with someone close, she made a mistake she made a mistake, what can you do ?!

Thats the way life works out, if you make a mistake you need to deal with it, she has to work out a plan with her parents, theres not much anyone else can do including yourself because what you say probably wont have any bearing on her life she needs to sit down and think. All you can do is give her some moral support and just make sure she doesnt do anything crazy like *KILL* the white girl or *KILL* the guy. Other then that ... not much else can be done.

all girls think that

Kind of a selfish way to go about it as well

I can say I was in her position at one point. Got pregnant at age 17 by a guy I THOUGHT I loved. I was young and stupid. After I had my daughter everything change. I changed for her. She maybe stressed out now but after she have her baby she's going to think back an laugh.
Who say she can't go to college. Don't use a baby as an excuse. I'm in college to become an RN. Thats for mine and my daughter future. Ever since she was born I gave up everything. Friends and fun. I was determine to raise my daughter as if she have 2 parents. My time and energy goes to her. Even after along day of work I still mangage to love her unconditionally. Only time can heal her pain. I know my daughter help me ALOT. she open up my eye to see what kind of guy he really is. I'm 20 now and I can honestly tell you that you can't see me any happier.

Congrats on your situation.One day, i hope my wife are just devoted as you are.