How come that all girls say, "we are equal to men" and at the same time, they look for a big, buff guy. I always see these girls with nice bodies hanging out with these fat, big guys. They aren't humongously fat but they're pretty buff. They're fu-king ugly. Nothing they wear looks good because of their body shape. and for sure, by the time they get older, they'll be fat asses for sure.

Girls just want a big, strong secure body to snuggle to at night to feel safe and secure. Its ridiculous.

And why must a guy be emotionally secure? How come guys like me who are wildly emotional and moody and dark and imaginative are branded as "insecure" and therefore, not attractive?

In the end, girls are just looking for a guy who can listen to all their complaints and then comfort them and make things ok. Nobody wants a guy who has his own emotional issues as well.

Girls love being weak.

When I get a girlfriend, I will treat her as an equal. None of this stupid pampering $hit.

huh, what, aweeee... DetunedRadio, what's popping!?! I am an INDEPENDENT woman. My dude is buff but REALLY he is not my preference but he is a great guy!! I live in my home and he has his own. I pay my own bills and he pays his own. OH wait we both have J.O.B.S. and we both not pressuring one another for marriage because we are happy doing what we are doing and it's been 8 wonderful years. He hasn't changed and neither have I. Trust me every relationship has its ups and downs but we beat the odds because we find time to communicate about everything and anything. Also, we don't go to sleep mad at each other.

not really
at least not true for me
and I know a lot of female friends who hate those overly buff kind of guys too
please keep in mind a hot/sexy bod does not equal overly buff body

And you just said the other yourself that many guys take their girlfriends for granted but you would treat her like a princess.

yup. a hot sexy bod for my auntie is................................. Urbanpoets sexi bod.

hahahahahah... BUSTED!! 2

Rolling On Floor Laughing My Donkey Off @Theta. You go girl! 2

I don't like buff guys. I like lean guys. I like guys that are taller than me, but I don't want someone that towers over me.

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Man, you are so so confused! Tsk! Tsk1 Tsk!

This is not the first that i read some of your posts that's quite contradicting.

maybe he sees himself as a price...then they would be equals.....a very high high maintenance couple....but equal....

just wondering how far people will take equal. if a girl slaps you in the face are you gonna slap her back. if a girl sucker punches you in the nose are you gonna do the same. Girls will never bet treated equally because they are girls and we are boys. We are going to be treated differently always because we are.

deleted got damn it the internet sucks

Girls and boys are as unequal as Venus and Mars are!

from your misogynistic post it's no wonder you're having bad luck with females. "'girls' love being weak" yet you say that you'll treat a future GF as an equal. with your current attitude, that is highly doubtful

who said I was having bad luck with females? I don't even try mainly because I hvaen't found anyone I'm totally interested in.

you have in your numerous "woe-is-me" posts

http://www.asiafinest.com/forum/index.php?showtopic=20067

http://www.asiafinest.com/forum/index.php?...topic=20932&hl=

besides, common sense will tell you that noone that has such a low opinion of females as you do is going to be successful in the 'dating game'.

you have issues within yourself that you need to deal with before you can even think about looking for a gal. why don't we want insecure boys? because they have low self-esteem, are possesive, try to be controling, and basically have bad attitudes. how can you be supportive and loving of someone else when you are so insecure yourself?
you're transferring your own insecurities and self-doubt onto females by blaming us for being prissy and too high maint. you're just afraid you won't be able to live up to your end in a healthy relationship.

fix yourself 1st.

I don't want a healthy relationship. I want a relationship with a girl I can relate to. I don't just want her as a girlfriend but as a person I could also call a friend.

and what does it take to be your friend?

someone I can relate to

Rolling On Floor Laughing My Donkey Off@I don't want a healthy relationship.. So you saying you want a partner that will deal with your abusive ways!?!

I don't hit girls if that's what you're asking.

I'm going to apologize beforehand. But I really do feel the need to say this. Detuned, you're so pessimistic, self-pitiful, discouraging of others, and incurable that I hope I'll never become the girlfriend of someone like you. I truly pity the woman who would be yours, if you were lucky enough to get a girl to like you (yes, the YOU with an inferiority-complex worse than that of Michael Jackson) in the first place.

is that supposed to hurt my feelings?

I would hope not. I'm simply telling the truth. But seeing as you can always become so easily disheartened...

you're going to pity the woman who would be mine? she'll be pitying you for marrying some confident, arrogant guy who thinks he OWNS you and treats you like $hit. thats how confident guys act.

yay more asian women bashing can i join

sniff is right. try listening instead of being obnixous



you don't even know how to treat yourself, how are you going to treat someone right? get a girl before you start talking sh*t.

bottom line: all you crave is attention.

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abuse is not only physical it can be mental and emotional abuse as well. I'm saying how is your relationship would ever work out if its not healthy? It's not conducive.

I love girls who are independent and goal oriented and strong minded...but that doesn't mean they can't be feminine at the same time. and of course they want to feel secure and safe around their man, if they didn't need that, I think they'd go play for the other team if you know what I mean. equal only works in math...not relationships. or maybe you just need to go after one of those girls that body build, then they can protect you and make you feel secure. 2

I don't need a man to protect me and I don't expect it. That doesn't mean I "play for the other team," and by the way what a corny line...Why would a man want a woman that's with him for a sense of security? I don't want that from men, I get that from myself. That's what being independent is.

Women are only independent when they feel like it!

Why?Experience life at its fullest and you will know why!

The same could be said of men. I've known plenty of men who pretend to be independent and self-confident in the beginning but end up clingy and needy and just fu-king annoying. Men pretend to be sure of themselves and yet some just end up acting like babies that need attention all the time.

nadja and lilruffneck... you guys took the words right out of my mouth

maybe what I wanted to write and what I wrote came out wrong. or maybe you're just reading too much into it. I'm not saying all women are like that, that's my experience. you're saying it like i'm pointing my finger at you and have the spotlight on you when I wrote those things. chill.
I think independence and sense of security is completely different things. independence = being able to rely on yourself to make it in this world.
sense of security = feeling of safety ie being at home.
and I never said men wanted women that needed the men to feel more secure, but lets face it, our role in society puts us in that character. how many women would put up with a man that screams at the sight of a spider or mouse? how would you feel if your man did that? granted both minor things but it's just an example.
anyway, no arguments here, but just thought my point was misread. and I was totally joking about the other stuff, corny or not, it's from one of the few shows I watch 'Seinfeld'.

I'd think he's a pansy @$$. I would never scream at a sight like that, so why should a man? What kind of person is afraid of spiders and rodents...especially to the point of screaming?

maybe a phobia?

See? You are a petty, sensitive man. I tell you the truth and you start to personally attack me by deeming my future boyfriend/husband a narcissistic jerk. Being confident does not necessarily mean being arrogant. I love confident guys. I'm sorry I'm not into wimpy, whiny guys like you. But then again, most girls aren't. Instead of encouraging and inspiring others, or simply keeping your mouth shut, you like to destroy their ambitions and dreams by coming up with the worst scenarios for them. And get this straight - I would never marry a guy who would treat me, or himself, like $hit. You wouldn't like to think that some guys happen to be this good of quality because you yourself can't handle the truth that some guys are genuinely this good and this much better than you, with no strings attached.

What's with all these threads he created?
U seem to think that all girls are the same and need a guy there to comfort them/protect them.
And I think a lot of guys won't like their gfs to be some weak hapless female with no mind of their own and always need their protection.
Many healthy relationships are built on equality...I love my bf to take care of me (who doesn't?) and pamper me but I do the same for him too.
So u mean to say that if a woman loves being pampered, she ain't independant?
Man, u have some very weird theories...

meh....i don't really what a girl that's too independent. i like to get the feeling that i'm taking care of my girl and playing a sort ofcomfront / support role. Now i don't mean she can be clingy and needy ALL the time...but we all have times when we need to be the baby right? i know i do but hopefully she'll be there to baby me in my time of need too

sigh... not again. not another pathetic post by DR.

likes to be pampered = weak? where did that come from??

independent = not needing love and care? where did that come from again??

from DR's world... i see...

so i supposed that, according to DR's theory, all independent people don't need to be loved and care for and supported??

somebody tell me, what is this logic?!

get me a confident guy anytime! all gals i know like a guy who's secure, confident and treats them well. THAT, DR - whether you like it or not - is the truth. if you can't handle it, too bad, but stop attacking our preferences.