This is just one thing that made me think of this initally, not everything....... In ch-chat I saw a yt vid of a chinese lady fighting with a black lady over a seat on a bus in chinatown- it wasn't that later but that was initially the original (first) reason. What happened basically is the black lady was taking up a couple seats next to her with bags and a chinese lady later getting in the bus tried to sit where the bags were (cause it was a very croweded bus). She nudged at them to move but when she touched the black lady she snapped yelling at her about touching her (along with moving her bags and trying to get in "her seat" of course)..... After a verbal altercation over this with both women standing, this literally turned into a physical brawl with the black lady throwing a first punch and later the chinese woman whopping her in the head a few times.... this is the worst it got with fortuneately no injuries that required hospitalization or anything like that...

Granted the chinese lady was in the right because she had a right to sit there, do you think the fight over a seat initially worth it? Again I just used this as an example cause I myself have experienced the potential to get in big altercations that had the possiblility of turning physical many times but honestly perhaps esp as an Asian girl I usually opted not to.... showing a little humility cause of it..... I've wondered before if I made the right decision..... Would you choose peace at the expense of being humble and not making a huge scene or getting physically involved even if you were wronged ever so slightly a way that really had no major effect on anything you were doing at the time OR do you think it worth it to make it a point to make a big deal over everything, even the little things (perhaps like the lady(s) in the video) and ppl like me are doormats lol.....??? Why?

Most fights start out from something small or minor. It's just how it is.

That "black lady" sounds like a real biatch. The "Chinese lady" had every right to give her a whopping. With that said, I usually dislike people who start a fight or argument over tiny little things. And for some reason, this seems to be more common with women than it does with men, like with the example you've given.

However, in many different kinds of workplaces, you'll have to deal with people like that all the time. Most of the time I think it's best to avoid conflict, but there are times when you'll have to argue back if you want to avoid getting tricked or conned, or anything like that... as long as it doesn't get physical, that is.

If you let little things slide, they eventually become big things. Stand your ground.

you have to look at it like business, cost-benefit break even point.

if the benefit > cost, then fight back if you know you gain something (maybe no1 push you over again?)

if cost > benefit, perhaps fighting back will get you arrest.

so it depends on circumstance.

personally, that incident is a little kiddy for both ladies.. fighting over a bus seat, c'com...

i wouldn't recommend fighting in that situation.. just negotiate.. if she starts the first move, i would've smack her... well not killing her but restraint her and dial beep beep beep...... for ambulance LOL

Thats mean, over a touch?It was obviously crowded.One of them might have been rude about it and the other one wasnt going to put up with it hahaha

i saw that video. chinese lady got off on that blacc chicc. said bop bop.