its funny because a lot of people still do it now days;
i'd feel like $hit if my dad went back and forth between his wives' houses
what a fu-ker, don't call me son; i can only imagine what a women would feel
like if her husband was fu-king his other wife at her house

It is pretty messed up. There are some young couples that accept it. I wonder how they really feel inside though.

i'd feel like $hit; even if i were boinking a different girl everynight;
how about yourself?

I would lose alot of respect for them. If my dad did such a thing I would disrespect him on purpose. I've been fortunate enough to have parents that faithfully stuck with eachother through thick and thin compared to that of many peers and relatives I've known in the past.

Not exactly polygamy but I overhear conversations all the time from married men who cheat on their wives regularly, every once in a while, some of them are relatives. I feel uncomfortable and usually just drift away. Why the fu-k get married? The other day an uncle was showing me pics of these Poj Nrauj of his and asking me if I was interested in any of them since he wanted me to loosen up a bit. I was pretty shocked since he's got small children and a wife at home. Never really thought about that whole underworld.

I could cause alot of devastation in people's lives without anyone suspecting It could be amusing! Naw I'm not evil. Think of the kids!

I don't think a lot of people still do it, or that it's a common practice whatsoever. I only know of one family like that and everyone is miserable. The guys a total d*ck and no one respects him at all.

I don't know if I posted it here, but I was telling somebody or some people how one Sunday afternoon, I was imagining myself as the first of the two wives. I know I'm not married nor had I ever gotten myself into a relationship but GOSH, I can feel their pain somewhat if not completely.

Can you imagine going to sleep every night alone for the rest of your life? When he does come sleep in the same bed with you, it's only because he's angry with he second wife or he was forced by you?
Can you imagine him not eating your cooking anymore but he always eats hers?
Can you imagine him not wanting to spend time with you (infact, he finds you nnoying!) but goes everywhere with her?
Can you imagine being the ugly old one?
Can you imagine competing for the rest of your life?
Can you imagine him yelling at you all the time but praises and talks sweetly to the other woman?

It makes me feel so sad for first wives.
Sometimes, I wonder how they feel like on their husband and second wife's wedding day.. Must hurt more than death.
Thinking about this makes me want to cry . Tu siab tshaj qhov tu siab.


DIE POLYGAMY!

Hmong men back then and some today too are selfish and only cares about what brings them pleasure. Use this woman, abandon her, who cares traditionally in our culture women can't do anything about it, and find a prettier, better, younger woman.

^ Don't worry you're always invited for a threesome.

@LIL: Poj nrauj? You have to be careful around divorced Hmong women. I hear too many stories about them. Poj nrauj are desperate women. They like to dress up and go around town. Don't fall for them! You'll be one of the several victims. Get yourself a nice unmarried woman.
I'm not saying all divorced woman are bad, but there are some out there and men should be aware of them.

People shouldn't rush into marriage or relationships too soon. I feel a lot of people in America aren't very wise when it comes to relationships. They marry for the wrong reasons. When they do marry for the right reasons, they can't ever forgive or try to work things out. One little fight, I'm snitching on the cops!
That is why we see so many problems and ugly cases nowadays. *sigh...

I feel very lucky I have never dated and don't plan to any time soon. Real love must have real patience. I'm not going to be like most of my friends and jump into any kind of relationships (because he's really cute or he has a lot of money or he's such a bad boy) even though I know it's not going to last and it'll hurt me a lot when we break up.. URM, PATHETIC? People need brains.. I mean, minds.

Some people should stop feeling sorry for me too because they need that sorriness more than me . I'm not the one suffering or had suffered.

It's horrible to see what's happening in the states. People having affairs, no sense of loyalty anymore, nor a care for it. That's because the public makes these things seem normal and acceptable, when they aren't.

Just overall our society is complete trash. We push so much negativity onto our children and disguise it as being something of success. All these alcohol advertisements on the billboards, on the football game commercial breaks, completely everywhere. Same with cigarette smoking. People these days are in such a hurry to grow up, no one wants to sit back and take the time to understand how everything works and give themselves a chance to mature on their own before they make commitments like marriage.

Urm, I don't care.

I don't believe in marriage.

Who said he wanted to marry a few times?

He didn't want me to get in a relationship. He just wanted me to meet them for a "good time" because i'm so innocent and need to loosen up a bit. I look at him differently now.

Anyways, don't worry bout me lol. There is not even room in my heart for a good girl, why would I fall for a divorced cougar? I can only picture myself with an old divorcee out of shamelessness and selfishness BTW, divorced women are desperate but unless they hit the jackpot on some poor lonely loser, the guys aren't totally victims lol..everybody gets what they want. I have seen a bunch of Poj Nrauj with Nraug Mos. They both benefit from sexual pleasure and the boys are happy as long as she buys them their toys and takes care of them. Nice cars and bikes, food, shelter, pays their bills and debt etc. They still carry on their lives as if they were young and single behind her back. Usually ends up in heartbreak for the old lady once the boy gets angry and leaves.

Yeah society is becoming worse because people want to find excuses to not admit their FAIL of succumbing to such secular desires. You guys are telling me I'm weird, these are the weird people lol. And generally all these Hmong "men" telling me to "man up" are only macho in attitude..physically they are nothing. It does sorta pain me to see a pretty girl get taken advantage of by a horny little girly man.

Don't get me wrong, alot of those people are cool people...it's just in this aspect that they suck..which is a big deal otherwise we wouldn't be talking about it hah.

Polygamy is illegal but of course there are always loop holes. Mormons are exempt from this law though...lol...

I would ditch the moron the moment he betray me. I would get him arrested for even attempting polygamy. I would not tolearate his bs.

Open marriage?