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Full Version: Does she like me?
you shouldn't of bought stuff for her. that's what people do in Asia and in the 1500's. it looks like she's just stringing you along. ignore her and see what happens.
for others reading this I'd like to say nobody "dates" anymore. you just hang out. you can't use old timey courtship rituals in this modern day and age. unless you're some type of weirdo irrational christian conservative.
for others reading this I'd like to say nobody "dates" anymore. you just hang out. you can't use old timey courtship rituals in this modern day and age. unless you're some type of weirdo irrational christian conservative.
you would kno if she was feelin you by now. and it sure as fucc dont sound like it.
hmmm..toughfy.
i feel like she might be slightly attracted to you.
i'm also a freshmen in college, and hugging is fine, but physical contact like caressing you face and sitting on you lap shows that she somewhat attracted to you.
next time you see her, try asking if she has a boyfriend and then suggest to go see a movie or something.
i feel like she might be slightly attracted to you.
i'm also a freshmen in college, and hugging is fine, but physical contact like caressing you face and sitting on you lap shows that she somewhat attracted to you.
next time you see her, try asking if she has a boyfriend and then suggest to go see a movie or something.
QUOTE (Bre3zyJune @ Oct 31 2009, 05:11 PM) 
but physical contact like caressing you face and sitting on you lap shows that she somewhat attracted to you.
next time you see her, try asking if she has a boyfriend and then suggest to go see a movie or something.
next time you see her, try asking if she has a boyfriend and then suggest to go see a movie or something.
Men, If u get enough alcohol into someone, they act unpredictably and say $hit they dont meant, Worst part is that they dont recall any of that after the hangover. I remember we went partying, when some of us didn't drink (I was the driver, and the other dude was on DUI probation), and some simply went nuts with the bottles, of different kinds. We woke up the day after and one fool told us he couldn't remember anything after 8PM last night, me and the other dude simply made up a bunch of things and the drunk fool was like "wow, really". On the drive back he kept asking us if he did anything stupid that night, how drunk he was lol ...
Anyways, to the OP. Get her on a real date ASAP, see how it goes before confessing. Romance will add on your chance of succeed
Hugging and sitting on your lap maybe exciting for a freshman.
I have found that unless you get that sweet lingering kiss ...
you haven't got her heart or love interest.
But, you should keep working it if you're getting physical touching.
Good luck
I have found that unless you get that sweet lingering kiss ...
you haven't got her heart or love interest.
But, you should keep working it if you're getting physical touching.
Good luck
good luck..
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So I am a freshman at college right now but I don't have that many experiences with girls (hardly at all actually).
Anyways, I met this girl at a party and needless to say, she was quite attractive and I wanted to get to know her. Soon we got to texting and stuff. From then on, I've been seeing her for a few times (lunch, studying together at the library and whatnot). However, I don't think she sees them as dates. I bring her some gifts and such when we meet, like food. Especially at this one point, she said she was feeling down and I got her these gloves and hat that were on store display that she thought it was cute. In my opinion, I think these were huge giveaways that I like her. :unsure:
Last night, her, I and a few friends of ours went drinking. We weren't completely smashed or anything though (at least I wasn't). After we got tipsy and whatever, she got a little bit flirty around me, saying that I'm so sweet for getting her all these gifts and stuff (physical contact slightly involved too, like she was caressing my face, hugging me, sat on my laps, etc.). We went to a party afterwords, and of course, I accompanied her to the walk there among our other 2 friends. On our way there, there was some more physical contact too (like hugging), but by then, I was sobering up. So we arrived at the party but no alcohol left. Mainly guys and only few girls. I talked to the other girls but I couldn't bare a moment being without the girl I'm attracted to. When we were walking back to our dorm rooms, another friend of ours would join us, and she would walk with him on the way back (but he has a girlfriend though). Anyways, what I've learned from last night is that she's a partying/clubbing girl (also has many male friends and I don't exactly go clubbing). Well, at the end of the day, I was kind of convinced that she didn't have interests for a relationship with me (I felt really left out on the walk back). Despite this, next time I see her, I've decided to confess to her about my feelings. :unsure:
What does AF think I should do? I apologize if this is too long to read.
PS. I am kind of shy around this girl, so there are some silent moments when we are together. Can anyone give me tips to overcome this?
Anyways, I met this girl at a party and needless to say, she was quite attractive and I wanted to get to know her. Soon we got to texting and stuff. From then on, I've been seeing her for a few times (lunch, studying together at the library and whatnot). However, I don't think she sees them as dates. I bring her some gifts and such when we meet, like food. Especially at this one point, she said she was feeling down and I got her these gloves and hat that were on store display that she thought it was cute. In my opinion, I think these were huge giveaways that I like her. :unsure:
Last night, her, I and a few friends of ours went drinking. We weren't completely smashed or anything though (at least I wasn't). After we got tipsy and whatever, she got a little bit flirty around me, saying that I'm so sweet for getting her all these gifts and stuff (physical contact slightly involved too, like she was caressing my face, hugging me, sat on my laps, etc.). We went to a party afterwords, and of course, I accompanied her to the walk there among our other 2 friends. On our way there, there was some more physical contact too (like hugging), but by then, I was sobering up. So we arrived at the party but no alcohol left. Mainly guys and only few girls. I talked to the other girls but I couldn't bare a moment being without the girl I'm attracted to. When we were walking back to our dorm rooms, another friend of ours would join us, and she would walk with him on the way back (but he has a girlfriend though). Anyways, what I've learned from last night is that she's a partying/clubbing girl (also has many male friends and I don't exactly go clubbing). Well, at the end of the day, I was kind of convinced that she didn't have interests for a relationship with me (I felt really left out on the walk back). Despite this, next time I see her, I've decided to confess to her about my feelings. :unsure:
What does AF think I should do? I apologize if this is too long to read.
PS. I am kind of shy around this girl, so there are some silent moments when we are together. Can anyone give me tips to overcome this?
Mr Skeet, girls are hard to predict. Leave out the clubbing, party and dancing part, physical contact in sober mood is not even genuine. That's because the sanity of their mind is in question at such condition.
You can try to confess your love to her, it's okay to do so. Bear in mind, be prepared for any unpleasant answer. As an advice, date a girl who seldom go clubbing, who seldom drink and never smoke. They will be more fateful to you.
Humanity is but one family.
QUOTE (Tissue Box @ Nov 1 2009, 04:31 AM)
it sounds like you're just another one of her guy friends.
No. I talked through experience. Some fun-loving girls are not bad, but they decline to involve in any serious relationship because they feel that they are unprepared. It's us, the gullible and credulous guy that exposed ourselves to become vulnerable.
I did love a fun-loving girl before and the consequences were painful. The happiness that were generated from those sober mood caress or even body relationship are fake. Unless the OP above are willing to wait until she changes her lifestyle by becoming family-oriented girl, curtailed on the clubbing and drinking. As of this time, she cannot be a good and loyal girlfriend, let alone a faithful wife.
Take this advice into mind. It's very effective. If he wants to act like a savior, I applaud his intention. Good luck to him.
Humanity is but one family.
i see, thanks for the advice everyone
One thing you learn in college is that there are a lot of girls who have no trouble showing physical affection with guys they do not plan on dating or going into a relationship with--especially true if they had some drinks. I am against the idea of buying things for girls--- such as gloves and a hat---when you haven't even established anything official or substantial. It's a waste of money and you have absolutely no obligations to do so. Plus, in a way, you are trying to win her over with gifts...when in these 'earlier stages' you should instead be winning her over with who you are---not what you buy for her.
You're keeping in contact with her and inviting her out to one-on-one things but you have to make your interest obvious in the sense that you will flirt with her every now and then or do something which separates you from just being a friend. Where's the chemistry? You seem way too whipped over this girl right now. You've put yourself in a position to get hurt. I would suggest not "confessing your feelings" to her as that will just make things awkward. Kind of like the idea of 'dating' is dead in modern times, you don't want to just bluntly put yourself out there like that. It isn't smooth and chances are you'll put her on the spot which will result in an awkward rejection. She didn't walk back with you and talked with the other guy because she did not view your outing as exclusively with you. Most times, go with your instinct. If you like a girl, you need to establish this early and then when you feel the timing is right and she reciprocates interest, ask her out. I think you've dragged this situation on a little too long (with lunch time and such) and now you're dangerously in the friends zone when you should have gauged the right time to ask her out to dinner. And you don't want to be the guy friend who buys her things, do you? You'll end up with a naive broken heart, a lighter wallet and one less friend which you've established by your own inaction.
Just because you ate with a girl for lunch does not make it a date at all.
You don't have to take my word for it, but if I were you, I'd cut my losses---chalk that one up to the game---and keep her as a friend. Ask her for girl advice in the future and that will help you out. Right now I know you think this girl is a girl you can see yourself with. But it's your Freshman year in college. There really is more fish in the sea. You think you've found the most amazing girl ever but years later you'll laugh at how many of those "most amazing girls" you'll meet. Try not to just be interested in ONE girl. Have at least 2-3 interests. Why? Two main reasons. One, the more girls you pursue, the more chance you'll find one. And two, having more than one interest means if one girl isn't working out, you'll just start to think about working on the other girls instead. You'll understand and get the idea and concept of "am I wasting my time?" better. Don't let the girl control too much. Having more interests makes you fundamentally more in control. You seem like a guy who wants to find a girlfriend. Freshmen party/clubber girls are usually not the best type for that in general.
Good luck.
You're keeping in contact with her and inviting her out to one-on-one things but you have to make your interest obvious in the sense that you will flirt with her every now and then or do something which separates you from just being a friend. Where's the chemistry? You seem way too whipped over this girl right now. You've put yourself in a position to get hurt. I would suggest not "confessing your feelings" to her as that will just make things awkward. Kind of like the idea of 'dating' is dead in modern times, you don't want to just bluntly put yourself out there like that. It isn't smooth and chances are you'll put her on the spot which will result in an awkward rejection. She didn't walk back with you and talked with the other guy because she did not view your outing as exclusively with you. Most times, go with your instinct. If you like a girl, you need to establish this early and then when you feel the timing is right and she reciprocates interest, ask her out. I think you've dragged this situation on a little too long (with lunch time and such) and now you're dangerously in the friends zone when you should have gauged the right time to ask her out to dinner. And you don't want to be the guy friend who buys her things, do you? You'll end up with a naive broken heart, a lighter wallet and one less friend which you've established by your own inaction.
Just because you ate with a girl for lunch does not make it a date at all.
You don't have to take my word for it, but if I were you, I'd cut my losses---chalk that one up to the game---and keep her as a friend. Ask her for girl advice in the future and that will help you out. Right now I know you think this girl is a girl you can see yourself with. But it's your Freshman year in college. There really is more fish in the sea. You think you've found the most amazing girl ever but years later you'll laugh at how many of those "most amazing girls" you'll meet. Try not to just be interested in ONE girl. Have at least 2-3 interests. Why? Two main reasons. One, the more girls you pursue, the more chance you'll find one. And two, having more than one interest means if one girl isn't working out, you'll just start to think about working on the other girls instead. You'll understand and get the idea and concept of "am I wasting my time?" better. Don't let the girl control too much. Having more interests makes you fundamentally more in control. You seem like a guy who wants to find a girlfriend. Freshmen party/clubber girls are usually not the best type for that in general.
Good luck.
Yeah, what ^^ he said ...
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