i been to bakery before but i just order she nows my face ,but i never really talk to her-like hey how are you doing and nice day. since i am shy and there is one other co worker there and customers are there as they miught listen in.
just scared like other ppl are listening and think what is this guy doing.there is not much time to talk to her since its a small bakery too.

i never met her before, just looks wise shes not bad looking and not sure inside what she is like. i think shes from japan.

you think its ok to just give her my email on a piece of paper and tell her to email me and we can hang out. jsut as i am ordering my cookie or cake.
i am kind of shy too and don't like the idea of other stranger listening in too, since i be like hey how are you, how was your day and they will now for sure i am hitting on her or being too friendly. embrassing hey.

If you don't take any risks then your rewards are small.

Take the time to start a conversation.
Make eye contact and smile.
If she seems interested then give her your e-mail.
Remember .. nothing says creep more than unsolicted pieces of paper with e-mails
Sorry, had to jab at that one.

You need to talk and find out if she likes you enough to see you out side of worker/ customer setting.
Look for any signs ... like she will talk more with you even with other customers waiting,
or you can be more direct and ask her for a "coffee date".

Good Luck

LOL you so got NO GAME. hahaha i almost spill my hot tea out of my mouse hearing this.

seriously bosco, please don't do it. it's absolutely stupid to write your email on a paper and give it to her.. most likely it's trash hahaha..

can't believe why some dude can be sooooo out of wack when it comes to this...

just order your thing, and ask her name directly.. jee if she likes you, she likes you.. nothing say nothing you can do to change .

Hey man.. Just tell she has nice bun's and that you wouldn't mind a nice moist muffin, fresh out the oven. Hope this gets you laid

werent you already dating somebody in your other thread player?

Well I understand what you mean when you say you don't feel comfortable hitting on a girl with people listening in on you. That's why you should be smooth and not too brash. Like Avisitor said, just make small chit chat, get her name, establish a friendly smiley exchange.

If you go to the bakery often, she should start to recognize you. When you talk to her, try to talk about something not work-related as you want to be more than just another customer interested in talking about bakery. But you can initiate the conversation with something work-related to get the ball rolling. You're interested in her so branch out a little past food and into stuff like where's she's from or if she's going to school. Keep questions open-ended and try to avoid asking "yes" or "no" questions. Let her do most of the talking. Repeat things she says so she knows you were listening and genuinely interested in what she had to say. If you can, joke around a little and make her laugh. Avoid cliche questions like "how was your day?"

Treat the first time you talk to her as super causal. Pretend she's just a normal person you just wanted to introduce yourself to. Have a "whatever" attitude but be friendly and show interest in what she has to say (a.k.a--stay cool!). Don't be nervous or shy! Don't try too hard---These are just signs of weakness or desperation.

The e-mail on a piece of paper idea is horrible. DO NOT DO IT. You don't just shove a date in someone's face timidly out of nowhere and expect them to want it. Plus e-mail in general is kind of lame. I actually saw some guy do that. He was sitting next to a girl in a computer lab for like 30 minutes. Then the last 2 minutes he was there, he brought up some random @$$ conversation with the girl and then asked if she wanted his e-mail. It was so lame. The guy left without giving her any e-mail and I looked over at the girl and gave her a "that was awkward" look and she smiled about it to acknowledge how lame it was. Point being, I not only know it's lame, I've seen it's lameness in action. So how do you ask for her number you may be asking? Well through casual conversation (does not have to be the first conversation) it should lead into something you want to do with her. Like if she likes art, mention how you love this one art museum. Talk about all the things in it and then lead up to offering to take her. If she says "sounds fun!" Then just smoothly say something like,"I might be free this weekend actually, let me get your number and I'll give you a call on Friday." This will work WAY better than asking her how her day was, and then handing her your e-mail. Trust me. Also, if you aren't getting any good vibes from her and she seems uninterested, sometimes you should just move on to the next girl.

Good luck!

Hey bosco I thought about trying that email thing before too, guess not anymore :/

That's some good solid advice there, mikekk86.
Thumbs up there.

Talk to her and see if she is really your type. If you go there often, she will get the message your interested but you have to make some moves for her to determine if she is interested. So you need to try and talk to her and learn about her as well as she learn something about you - this will open the possibility of her giving you her info for contact though I would shoot for a cup of coffee on her break-time first.

Mike always writes the most thorough advice even to the trolls. But Avisitor is always fastest, damn you refreshing bastards.

You should be a little more assertive. IF you are too shy to ask her out. Invite her somewhere with a group of friends. Most likely she'll talk to you because she doesn't know anyone there. Give her your NUMBA brotha! Start out as amigos, have some one on one conversation about the weather, food, interests. Be openly friendly! Cause if I were her and a guy gave me an email address I would be like WHHHHHHHHHAHAAAAAT and would not reply.

Wow dude, do you live in the fu-king ghetto? Whenever I think of hitting the reply button I stop myself because good advice just doesn't sink in with you. However I feel I must put this in writing for those reading who aren't half as lost as you.

Writing your email on a fu-king piece of paper? You're 25+ and don't have a business card? Let this be a lesson to all those reading.
Get a fu-king business card!
If you don't have one, get one. Most women(not all women) are more superficial than you will ever know, this way they will have all the information they need to make sure you not a fu-king bum. When you hand a woman your business card you give her option to contact you with no feeling of obligation. If she contacts you, good. If nothing happens, nothing happens. You don't feel like a idiot afterword knowing you handed her your business card, instead of a fu-king piece of paper with your email on it.

Business card? Who do you think you are? Patrick Bateman?

Seriously now, a professional might give another professional a business card, but a shop worker is going to show her friends said card and hold a burning ceremony at the sheer gall of your actions. Why don't you just wave a wad of money in her face and call her a whore?

Grow a set and talk to her, build up a rapport over time, subtley ask if she is free and single and make jokes about taking her out to see the expression in her eyes which will tell you if you can ask seriously!

No girl is going to want a socially inept person. Learn social skills, much like you learnt to stand up straight and dress properly. You cannot get through life successfully without them.

The best thing to do IMO is be yourself. Its better to be yourself and show your true face, then faking it and ended up in a unhappy relationship. I'm not trying to brag or anything, but whenever i'm around female (strangers, co-workers, friends, attractive looking girls) in generally, i put the personality factor on top of the attractive one. If she dosen't have what i'm looking for in a women i ain't having it. I don't care how attractive she is.

Dude, you need to see the big picture. I'm not talking about pulling out a business card in this specific situation, because yes of course it'd look stupid. But generally speaking in social get togethers pulling out a business card is by far a better option than fu-king jotting your info down on a piece of paper. You know, the good old fashioned way, before the days of facebook.

Who the fu-k is jason bateman?



*i just googled jason bateman, wahahaha, that show he did was halarious. *

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0144084/ <<<--- Film: American Psycho, main character: Patrick Bateman. crap, did I get the name wrong in the first post? no I didn't! you googled wrongly

If you ever see it, you'll understand the business card issue. Sorry, thought this film had travelled the world and back. It caused enough of a stink in the west when it was released!

also, in this day and age, personal handwriting is far more precious than a printout. In some cases I've heard of people getting someone else to write personal notes with them just because they have far better handwriting skills. Those few first impressions really count Most people lie. When the partner finds out a year or more down the line then it really doesn't matter anymore.

wahaha, i just youtube'd it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qoIvd3zzu4Y

but getting back to the point. perhaps you and i or even the poster belong to different worlds, to me nothing says scrub more than a crumpled piece of paper. having a business card is the social norm when it comes to meeting other professionals, including women, such as myself.

but to the poster, yes you must talk first work your magic. if things work out great, that's good. at some point you'll need to give her your info. and the point im trying to get across is. business card > piece of paper. that way she can see you got your $hit together.