QUOTE (LittleDeathAngel @ Feb 16 2011, 08:52 PM)
She has been at this for days.... >_>
As for me asking her what her deal is, she won't talk to me.
Look at it this way, if I stopped her in the hallway, she would look the other way and walk off, pretending she didn't see me.
It IS that bad...
I feel like she either really hates me or thinks talking to a Chinese person is beneath her. >_>
Is there a "viet pride" thing that is going around that I don't know about? o_O
Hm...I have 3 things to say
1. If she has that attitude with you then why care about her? Don't you have enough friends already? Why bother about this one individual? I'm sure all of us have individuals that dislike us for whatever reason we don't know, but we shouldn't be bothered much about them, right?
2. Maybe it's in your mind. Maybe she wasn't realizing that she was offending you???
I think I have offended lots of people by ignoring them and I didn't even realize about it. Sometimes guys who I'd just met for a few days invited me out for lunch and I refused several times just because I didn't feel like to (I mean they were strangers to me after all and I felt weird eating alone with strangers), and when I met them the next time I just looked away because I didn't want to go through the process of explaining and stuff, and later I found out from other friends that they thought I disliked them.
3. It's a bit funny how you make a big generalization just because of a little incident in your life. Well, do you think everything has to do with the Chinese nationality?
Regarding your question, I can guarantee with you that whether Vietnamese hate Chinese has nothing to do with your friend's attitude toward you.
Most Vietnamese are not that crazy to hate on everyone in an ethnic population. There are lots of political disputes between China and Vietnam recently about Paracels and Spratly, so many Vietnamese may have negative view about China (most often they think of China as bully aggressive neighbor), but they direct that view toward the Chinese government (and possibly the Chinese nationalists who support their government's aggression toward their neighbors at whatever cost), but they don't direct that view toward the "common Chinese people" as they believe the common Chinese got nothing to do with their government's action. To Vietnamese, common Chinese are just like common people of every other ethnicity. So it's extremely unlikely that your friend dislikes you simply because you're Chinese (unless you explicitly said you would support China's invasion of Vietnam or something like that, but you're not crazy to say that to her, right?)
About whether Viets hate Chinese because of the colonization, nah. You can ask yourself these questions, "Do Vietnamese hate the French because the French colonized Vietnam and did lots of destruction to their countries?" "Do Vietnamese today have any problem with Japanese because Japanese invaded Vietnam and cause over 2 millions death in Vietnam?" "Do Vietnamese in VN today hate Americans because American mercilessly bombed their country?" The answer to all of these questions is the simple "No". Why? Well, why be enemies when you can enjoy mutually respected friendship? That's common sense.