QUOTE (lilyli @ Apr 1 2011, 04:49 PM)
So is it true that female in general don't care how a man looks? I mean most guys I saw who 's with a attractive girlfriend don't care too much of their outlooks.
I'd say it all lays in the eye of the beholder, meaning the physique
of a person rather then the esthetic beauty part.. because the physique of a person goes beyond the esthetic.. a smile, a voice etc. don't necessarily have this connotation of objective beauty that strikes, but they can touch unconsciously beyond of what they are because they can trigger an affective memory...
In psychoanalysis, the first loved being of the opposite sex leaves its mark forever on all of our relations, for the boy -> the mother, for the girl -> the father.
Still in psychoanalysis, attraction is an unconscious choice that goes back to either the mother or the father. Each smile, each look is an emotion.. We do not choose whom we are attracted to but we can choose if we wish to act on this attraction or not.
From that on we can indeed consciously choose to refuse our attraction to x or y esthetic or physique or to accept it.
I think that in order to be able to accept, most importantly you got to be someone equilibrated, which is not always evident during teenage years, and even later on some peeps (more m then f, lol) never really grow up