QUOTE (avisitor @ May 17 2011, 09:16 PM)
As far as I know, it is quite normal to be constantly thinking about your ex
As time passes and your focus turns to other things (like kids and just surviving),
you begin to think about the other person less and less.
The feelings never really go away ... they just hid out for a while.
When my highschool sweetheart, ripped my heart out of my chest and handed it to me
I could not get over it. And, thirty years later, I still have feelings for her.
So, yeah, breaking up is hard to do ... and sometimes you never get over it.
But, you do move on with your life.
Oh no please tell me i wont have 30 years of this feelings... I dont think i could take that .... Im still waiting to stop thinking of that person so much. Its not normal for me to NOT be able to move on..
QUOTE (Suijen @ May 17 2011, 09:28 PM)
Consider checking out forums specifically on love. I'm sure your circumstances are not completely unique, so there may be others who have also shared the same experience. From my layman perspective, it looks like you're just getting through a break up, in which case the feelings of lost and regret are probably the strongest. Consider cold-turkey and finding ways to distract or distance yourself if possible...though if you still have such feelings from over a year, you may also want to consider dating.
I have tried distancing myself but its very hard... he has also tried distancing himself ... but also fails and we end up talking to each other again a week later. Ive tried dating... but i think the guys i was with can feel that i am not really in the relationship emotionally..... and i do try but as cool as they are or attractive or whatever. I feel my heart is locked up tightly. and my mind is mainly preoccupied with someone else. so out of respect for other people, its best i dont date again... yet i guess.
QUOTE (GentleWind @ May 18 2011, 12:31 AM)
True love is unconditional, and this type of love must be cultivated from within the individual.
Well i want it to go away.
Well i am glad i am not obsessed haha... I was just worried, because i dont want to be obsessed.