Do these things take away from my eligibility? Not to brag or anything but Im really smart, and good looking. I get stares from hotties and random comments, as well as lots of free $hit and just overall lots attention from women. Well built, wide shoulders, about 6ft 165 lbs and I work out, watch my diet, and play a $hitload of different sports daily while working out. Currently engineering student with good marks at top 10 worldwide uni for my major.

However I smoke a lot of weed, play online poker as a second source of income (made 4k in may, up 2k this month), and drink a bit too (like once-twice a week). Are these things major negatives when it comes to relationships with asian girls (im asian) or can I simply hide them? People everywhere think im gay or something because they dont see me with a girlfriend but in actuality Im very picky when it comes to relationships I usually only consider 8's + who are also smart and etc etc... I dont think im shooting out of my league... perfectly reasonable TBH.

how heavy do you drink when you drink? in moderation is ok, once a week binge is obviously bad. smoking weed will ruin your gains at the gym.

smoking weed ruins gains at gym???? im pretty sure tho that most of the ppl at the gym look like they blaze. when i drink i just go out with friends and get fu-ked throw up, black out, do really stupid stuff (ie driving), been to hospital once.

gambling is not a big deal? smoking weed is not a deal breaker to ladies my age (~20) ?

Also, ive never had a relationship with a really asian girl before, ive been with some whitewashed asians and white girls, are there any differences when dating a korean girl thats only been here for like 5-6 years? I mean on her FB all her friends and stuff post in korean, she speaks good english though without too big of an accept.. makes me feel kind weird cos im the only non korean person she talks to

Koreans from Korea think weed is like crack.

Yeh weed will hold you back, binge drinking as well. Recovering from alcohol will slow your muscle recovery rate as well. Smoking affects your lungs and decrease the amount of oxygen in your blood which means oxygen going to your muscles. I guess it depends how seriously you work out. Personally I've never smoked and I've cut back on drinking. I'll have a few beers, but nothing to the point where I'm in struggle town the next day. I dont think its very attractive to girls if their boyfriend gets fu-ked up and does stupid stuff like drink driving. Plus coming home and spewing up everywhere isnt much of a turn on either. I've passed out spewing, have vague memories of lying in a shower having my carotid pulse checked regularly to make sure I'm still alive and then finally woken up spewing in a toilet with an IV bag in my arm (words cannot describe how much IV fluid helps hang over recovery). If I had a gf at the time, I dont think she would have been too impressed

ya man ur probably right, everytime i pass out im just very glad that im usually found by friends, didnt get raped, and still have all my posessions

With a post like that, isn't it obvious what is holding you back???
Sometimes the things we need are right in front of our faces.
Just too damn stubborn to realize it.