God’s Lonely Men

August 6, 2009
Author: Philip



When I heard that a man had walked into a gym outside Pittsburgh on Tuesday and opened fire killing three women and himself, my first thought was—“God, I hope the shooter isn’t Asian.” In this case, the killer turned out to be a 48-year-old Caucasian man named George Sodini. An online blog plus notes found at his home suggested Sodini specifically targeted women for constantly “rejecting” him. Read a pdf excerpt from his online diary here.

Was it wrong for me to assume that the killer may have been an Asian male? After all, there are valid reasons for thinking this—many of our recent high profile shooters have been Asian like in the case of the Virginia Tech massacre by Korean student Seung-Hui Cho.

Still, what is it about these incidents that make me immediately wonder if an Asian male is responsible? It wasn’t too long ago when I was studying behavioral science in college during the brief period when I actually planned to go to Quantico and become an FBI agent. At the time, almost all the serial killers and mass shooters we knew of in America were Caucasians. The theory was that persons of color were unlikely to commit such acts and if they did, it would be crimes committed against others of the same ethnicity or race. So if a Korean American were to go on a rampage, he would target other Koreans. In the past decade, this theory’s been proven wrong too many times.

I was also a teaching assistant for an Asian American studies class then (this was the early 1990s) and I noticed another phenomenon. No matter what topic we were covering, there were a number of Asian American male students who would always bring the discussion back to the subject of how Asian men were always “getting the short end of the stick” in American society–how they were constantly being emasculated, ignored and devalued.

There was this one student in particular who was only a year younger than me for whom this issue was especially important. He spoke with such conviction about how he was treated unfairly as an Asian male and sometimes he got so passionate that it freaked out some of the other students. A lot of his frustration was directed at women—Asian, Caucasian and others—because he felt as an Asian man in America, he was being rejected by all of them. I’m not saying this kid fit the profile of a killer, but I wondered if he would turn out OK.

I can dismiss this sort of behavior as something I only observed in others, but if I’m to be honest, I have to say I probably had more in common with that kid then I would have been willing to admit at the time. As a teen, I had a lot of anger and pain that manifested itself in all sorts of unhealthy behavior. But I was lucky to have people who cared about me including a woman I met during high school whose love may have been enough to keep me from going off the deep end.

But whenever I hear of a shooting like the one that happened on Tuesday, I now think of that kid in that Asian American studies class. I wonder where he is. I wonder how he’s doing. He must be in his mid/late-30s and I just hope he’s found peace in his life. I think of all the other young Asian men out there who may be feeling those same feelings of loneliness and inadequacy. Feelings I can still recognize. And I say a little prayer for all of God’s lonely men walking among us.

some asian here said this thing never happen to asian men in the west just an illusion, yeah right, just cuz it didnt happen to u dont mean it never happen, asian really are gullible race of people

read the comment section, this truly is sad

It's not because of the media. People will insult and flame me for saying this but I think meaningful relationships tend to be same race dating/marriages. I don't know about you but I get along best with Asian women. Even Asian FOB women who struggle with English connect with me better than white/Latina women do.

I don't think it's b/c these guys are losers. Obviously, some of them are losers. However, I know plenty of Asian males who are able to find girlfriends when they go back to Asia. The 180 degree changes in their personalities are quite astonishing actually. I have seen some who were very depressed and angry while living in America but they became very social, optimistic, and happy when they move back.

It's obvious these guys want a meaningful relationship. Getting a one night stand or a casual fling really ain't that challenging. There are plenty of bar girls who would whore themselves out to anyone with an extension in their pants.

The different races evolved in different environments. Thus, we have different predispositions. Obviously we would get better along with people who are more similar to us. People will insult me for saying this but I think racial stereotypes have some truth to them.

tl;dr are you sure you didn't just edit this article with the word asian/korean
i've read the same thing several times but from a muslim voice instead agh dumb

Can you name some stereotypes that apply "only" to white people and not to other races as well?

I don't think any stereotypes are 100% true but I do believe that different races have certain tendencies.

As for whites, there are plenty of stereotypes against them.
some white stereotypes:
- pedophilia, bestiality, incest
- arrogant sense of self-righteousness (aka white man's burden)
- power hungry
- interest in outdoor sports (hiking, hunting, sailing, etc.)

and so on...

What you advocate is not realistic in this day of age. People have choice and will choose to be with whomever they want to. And there is nothing you can't do about it. Stop going to forums that advocate race separation. It has got to your head.



People suffer because they don't know what causes them to suffer. They don't know their own situation.



Insult you? Maybe it's time for you to move to central asia where you can hunt with an eagle on your horse. I am suspecting this is your fantasy?



What you advocate is not realistic in this day of age. People have choice and will choose to be with whomever they want to. And there is nothing you can't do about it. Stop going to forums that advocate race separation. It has got to your head.



People suffer because they don't know what causes them to suffer. They don't know their own situation.



Insult you? Maybe it's time for you to move to central asia where you can hunt with an eagle on your horse. I am suspecting this is your fantasy?

Actually, interracial conflict is becoming worse than it had ever been. Most of human history is characterized by intra-racial conflicts where ethnic groups of the same race fight each other. BTW, a war between China and Japan is not racism.

Diversity only works in countries like Singapore. It is a rich developed nation ruled by a semi-fascist government that censors all tribalist ideas. In a poor country, diversity just leads to conflict, destruction, and genocide. Even America's inner cities have lots of racial tension.

Can you list any poor countries that have made diversity work?

BTW, people who live with different races are more likely to have racialist ideas than people who live among their own race. All the racially aware Asians that I know either come from the overseas communities in America, Canada, Australia, etc. or from border countries like Indonesia, Kazakhstan, Nepal, etc.

Asians from homogeneous countries like China, Japan, Korea, Taiwan, Mongolia, and Vietnam are much more likely to not care about race.



A lot of relationships today are based on shallow superficial reasons. What I say next will piss off the anti-racists but my experience tells me that same-race relationships are more likely to be based on feelings of love, emotional bonding, and compatible personalities.

I am not saying that all interracial relationships are not based on those reasons though. Some people have a problem understanding the concepts of probability, averages, and tendencies so I have to clarify that.

It seems that a lot of interracial couples are based on the following reasons:

white guy: "I want an Asian girlfriend because they have tight pussies. They are also very submissive and would do everything that you tell them to."
Asian girl: "I want a green-card." or "I think Asian men have tiny d!cks."
Asian guy: "All the Asian girls are dating white guys. We should fu-k as many white women as possible." or "White girls got bigger t!t$."
white girl: "Black guys are like OMG so cool. They got big d!cks."
black guy: "Black women are mean and nasty. So I want a white girl."

Call me old-fashioned if you want but I only support long-term monogamous relationships based on authentic feelings of love, emotional bonding, and compatible personalities. Anything else is either a sham or just hedonism. Once again, I am NOT saying all interracial relationships are based on the wrong reasons.



The reason those Asian guys are bitter is b/c they can't find meaningful relationships in a society full of non-Asians. They become happy in Asia b/c their probability of finding a real relationship goes up in a society where there are more Asian women.



Actually, I don't have a fantasy of living in Central Asia as an Altaic nomad. I just have a lot of respect for their warrior culture. Their strength is a good role model for Asian men.

Where? Can you give some examples.



Conflict, destruction, genocide might not have anything to do with diversity rather greed, anger, and ignorance. Not to mention poverty and lack of resources.



It might not work. But the reality of it is we have races live together in any country these days. But what you advocate is not a realistic solution to the problem of diversity-which you haven't explained exactly how diversity causes racial conflicts.



Why?



1) You need to prove that interracial relationships are not based on feelings of love, and emotional bonding, and compatible personalities. And what constitutes feelings of love, emotional bonding, and compatible personalities that are missing in interrecial relationships.

2) You neeed to prove that same race relationships are not based on feelings of love, emotional bonding, and compatabile personalities

3) In these of days of age, most if not all people (regardless of race) live by material possessions which have possesed their minds and bodies. There is a great decline in human values. That's why there are so many problems these days.

This is not a new phenomenon. In the past, Europeans have showed their fantasies about the Orient cultures as the "exotic others."

The same reason why Asian guys like White girls.



. What can you do about this girl?



Yes, frustration and revengeance.



Yes. Some girls like big d!cks. Sadly I don't have one. So there are girls out there who don't look for big d!cks as their priority.



Yes, sistahs don't play man.

Given what you said above is true, what can you do about it? It's their choice and we cannot stop them.



That's fine.

But do you mind talking the conditions that make feelings of love, emotional bonding, and compatible personalities possible?



Yes...but alternatively they can recognize and accept the situation for what it is. And move beyond their suffering. Nobody is bringing them suffering, but they themselves.




I do. But only for a couple days.

asian guys have a lot of pent up anger and they express it in very unproductive ways

I think bad tempers are just common traits among Asians. Even if they get everything they want, there are still plenty of moments where they would get very angry. This is why I don't understand why people think Asian women are submissive. The majority of Asian women that I know have bad tempers. Some of which make ghetto black sistahs look tamed by comparison.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1rm4SazjKsQ

So, it's not a surprise that Asians who have been through real suffering (Turkic-Mongol nomads) become the most violent and most dangerous soldiers in history.

That is where the stereotypes come from.



I prefer to see it as a culling. Personally, I am happy that gold-diggers and Asian women who are easily brainwashed by the media don't date Asian men.

At the same time, the shortage of Asian women culls the weaker Asian men.



Asian males who date white women for petty revenge are actually quite counter-productive to our race. All they are doing is contributing to our race's extinction. Let's also not forget their pathetic hypocritical thinking.



I was just describing their reasons. The only thing that regular Asians can do is to marry another Asian, move to a place with a large Asian population, and make Asian children.



I think each racial group has a predisposition towards certain types of personalities and behavior. You are more likely to have a meaningful relationship if you went out with a girl who had a similar personality than if you went out with one b/c of her t!t$ and @$$.



My view on suffering is that it is a good way to motivate yourself to do something. The thing about suffering is that it can either make or break a person. A superior person will use it to motivate himself/herself to achieve while the inferior person will fall to chaos.

Yes. Given that they believe in the same thing as you do.



1) A meaningful relationship is relative. If a girl likes big d!cks, and she finds her happiness being with a guy who has a big d!ck. To her, that's meaningful. To you that's superficial. Free choice man.

2) How do you define meaningful anyway?

3) Superficial? Well will you marry a girl with non-functional vagina? How many girls would marry a guy knowing that his penis will not work permanently? I am questioning where do we draw the line between superficial and non-superficial.




Yes. But remember they are the ones who are responsible for their suffering.

Never seen a problem in Aus



You always leave out sex which is as equally as important

That is the point of my presence on AsiaFinest. Obviously I can't keep Asians in existence by myself even if I made 10,000 kids with an Asian woman. The other thing is to get the hypocritical Asian racialists on the right track. There are way too many hypocritical Asian males who complain about AF/WM couples but would lust after white women.

Making these posts really ain't that hard. It's not like I am wasting time or anything.



I think the picture posted by SemperFidelis is a good description on meaningful relationships.



You're right that there are limitations. Obviously I want a woman with a functional vagina who is at least decently attractive. At the same, I want her to be of the same race and possessing compatible personality, interests, and beliefs.

I think a superficial person is someone who only cares about looks and/or sex but nothing else.



Suffering is actually a good thing. It makes you want to do something with your life. The fact is that laziness, hedonism, and temptations are all very hard to fight. This means you need something to push you forward. Being unhappy is a good way to do this since you would want to do everything you can to become happy.

Some of those depressed lonely Asian men use their predicament to motivate themselves while the weaker ones just whine.



Australia is a developed nation with a high standard of living. If there are any racialists or racists, they would keep the views to themselves. Since Australia is developed, very few Australians would be angry (or desperate) enough to commit violent hate crimes. However, if Australia became a poor country in the future, .

In a developed country, you just get keyboard commandos who might at most play with guns. It is only very rarely that you get a crazed nut like that guy from Norway.

However, things are different in less developed countries. Genocides are often rampant in them. As a non-white, I definitely don't want to walk the streets of Moscow.



Yes, I am more likely to find consummate love with a woman of the same race who has a similar upbringing, compatible personality, and common interests/hobbies/beliefs.

Hey whatever floats your boat.





Right but you have to prove that interracial relationships are not based on what listed on pyramid.




Ok but your assumption about interracial relationships are superficial is not supported. Unless you can present with some plausible arguement or evidence.




Right but true happiness comes from within not from an external source. If it comes from an external source, then happiness is dependent upon it.

Compatible personality, common interests/hobbies/beliefs are racially independent. A lot of the characteristics people look for in a prospective partner's personality are racially independent. You don't get to choose your race when you're born which is why I don't believe in judging someone by it.

Suffering is not a good motivator for everyone, but those who respond positively to suffering are generally those who are already self motivated whereas those people who are less driven generally find it harder to deal with suffering.

You post a great deal about monogamous long term relationships, but I'm interested on how you look to achieve passion and intimacy

if we go by statistic, why is the west always has the lowest interracial (USA only 2% while having so many foreigners), while everywhere i asian countries/land always has the highest interracial,

everywhere in the world asian has the highest interracial even though they only have very few foreigners, the highest interracial state in USA is hawaii (with majority of population is asian), 48% of marriage..

why do you think white people don't want or hesitate to mate outside of their race/ethnicity? while asian seem to always prefer other race of people? the two is like the opposite of each other

AsiaticGlory, What happened to the post where you post examples of racist incidents? I have not a chance to respond it and it disappeared. So can you briefly sum up your points please.

I think a mod deleted it. I don't think I said anything hostile in that post though.

It seems like the mod had taken what you said personally.