Lets say.....
A girl and a guy start exchanging emails often, then meet, then see eachother a few times. Then lets say they become "intimate" with eachother...
Lets say then that the girl and Guy live 3 hours away from eachother, but continue to alternate seeing eachother on weekends at eachothers places. Now lets say that its clear they like eachoter. Lets say that the guy seems to be very nice to the girl...ie driving 3 hours to see her everyother weekend, and sending her home with noodles, teas, coffees, kimchi ect ect everytime she sees him, and that they talk for hours with eachother. Lets say that this guy told the girl he loved her once. and that one of the reasons he still continues to see her is not only because of their physical relationship but because he really enjoys talking to her BUT lets say that this guy always tells the girl he has other plans at certain times so either he leaves or she goes home...... What is going on in this situation?
oh and lets just say its all happened within the timespan of 4 months. just saying
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Hmm is this a hypothetical question.
If so Id say entrapment is the best option.
If so Id say entrapment is the best option.
QUOTE (YourMuDoIsWeak @ Aug 30 2011, 10:10 AM) 
Hmm is this a hypothetical question.
If so Id say entrapment is the best option.
If so Id say entrapment is the best option.
yes lets just say this was a situation lol.... i dont get your answer sorry lol
QUOTE (mastaping @ Aug 30 2011, 11:12 AM)
yes lets just say this was a situation lol.... i dont get your answer sorry lol
To lure into danger, difficulty, or a compromising situation.
Seeing as this dude is probably not a douche bag this girl could entrap him by having a baby.
this is all hypothetical of course. I have seen this happen though.
QUOTE (YourMuDoIsWeak @ Aug 30 2011, 10:22 AM)
To lure into danger, difficulty, or a compromising situation.
Seeing as this dude is probably not a douche bag this girl could entrap him by having a baby.
this is all hypothetical of course. I have seen this happen though.
Seeing as this dude is probably not a douche bag this girl could entrap him by having a baby.
this is all hypothetical of course. I have seen this happen though.
Hmm so you dont think in anyway that this guy is possibly using this girl? I mean whats with the time frames...... Do you not think that if this guy really liked this girl like he says he does that he would spend more time with her???
QUOTE (mastaping @ Aug 30 2011, 11:28 AM)
Hmm so you dont think in anyway that this guy is possibly using this girl? I mean whats with the time frames...... Do you not think that if this guy really liked this girl like he says he does that he would spend more time with her???
Im 21 years old.
Im a "young buck"
Seeing as I fu-ked up all of the relationships i have been in by being a complete and utter dumbass I dont think I should give you any more $hitty relationship advice.
I am a blunt individual, I would confront the person look them in the eye and say "Are you just fu-king with me? Or is their more" I lack tact as you see.
QUOTE (YourMuDoIsWeak @ Aug 30 2011, 10:37 AM)
Im 21 years old.
Im a "young buck"
Seeing as I fu-ked up all of the relationships i have been in by being a complete and utter dumbass I dont think I should give you any more $hitty relationship advice.
I am a blunt individual, I would confront the person look them in the eye and say "Are you just fu-king with me? Or is their more" I lack tact as you see.
Im a "young buck"
Seeing as I fu-ked up all of the relationships i have been in by being a complete and utter dumbass I dont think I should give you any more $hitty relationship advice.
I am a blunt individual, I would confront the person look them in the eye and say "Are you just fu-king with me? Or is their more" I lack tact as you see.
lol your a guy you can do that......but i am a girl........HEY! who says this is about me anyway lol
This is just about a girl and a guy....lol
This is just about a girl and a guy....lol
QUOTE (mastaping @ Aug 30 2011, 11:42 AM)
lol your a guy you can do that......but i am a girl........HEY! who says this is about me anyway lol
This is just about a girl and a guy....lol
This is just about a girl and a guy....lol
I assume to much?
Personally, being the cynical misanthrope that I am I would say the girl is being used.
But that is because I stopped seeing the bright and sunny optimist years ago.
QUOTE (YourMuDoIsWeak @ Aug 30 2011, 10:47 AM)
I assume to much?
Personally, being the cynical misanthrope that I am I would say the girl is being used.
But that is because I stopped seeing the bright and sunny optimist years ago.
Personally, being the cynical misanthrope that I am I would say the girl is being used.
But that is because I stopped seeing the bright and sunny optimist years ago.
No its possible that you are right.... maybe u are that way because reality has made it so..... I know this because im also thinking that this girl is possibly getting used. Tho i really really want to believe that that is not true...... i want to believe
I'd say he may just have other things planned; like he's part of a club and has to meet on certain days, or he's got a part-time job, etc. Otherwise why travel 3 hours just to see the girl? She's have to be pretty special to him for him to drive that long of a distance to see her. Is this hypothetical couple concrete? Have they established that they're exclusive or not? And it doesn't matter if you're a girl or not; sometimes if you want to know something, you should be blunt rather than beating around the bush.
QUOTE (Vendetta @ Aug 30 2011, 12:17 PM)
I'd say he may just have other things planned; like he's part of a club and has to meet on certain days, or he's got a part-time job, etc. Otherwise why travel 3 hours just to see the girl? She's have to be pretty special to him for him to drive that long of a distance to see her. Is this hypothetical couple concrete? Have they established that they're exclusive or not? And it doesn't matter if you're a girl or not; sometimes if you want to know something, you should be blunt rather than beating around the bush.
Thank you for your reply~.......Lets say he does not have anything planned like that... its always gatherings with friends. ... And lets say he cant work in the us so its not a job..Lets say this hypothetical couple has not really established anything other than they like eachother, enjoy eachother company, and are not being intimate with any one else... I see how him driving so long and doing those things for this girl would easily make one believe that this girl was special to him... But then why would this guy make only one day a week available for this girl? when he does not work, or go to school at the current moment nor is he part of any clubs... Lets also say that during the week, they may have one or 2 phone calls and exchange a few texts... but thats all..... Hmm lets say that this girl is scared sh-tless of pressuring the guy, since the guy is the one who is supposed to make the first move on that..... 
QUOTE (mastaping @ Aug 30 2011, 12:34 PM)
Thank you for your reply~.......Lets say he does not have anything planned like that... its always gatherings with friends. ... And lets say he cant work in the us so its not a job..Lets say this hypothetical couple has not really established anything other than they like eachother, enjoy eachother company, and are not being intimate with any one else... I see how him driving so long and doing those things for this girl would easily make one believe that this girl was special to him... But then why would this guy make only one day a week available for this girl? when he does not work, or go to school at the current moment nor is he part of any clubs... Lets also say that during the week, they may have one or 2 phone calls and exchange a few texts... but thats all..... Hmm lets say that this girl is scared sh-tless of pressuring the guy, since the guy is the one who is supposed to make the first move on that.....
If this hypothetical guy has no job, that also means he doesn't have a stable income, meaning he's somewhat broke. Driving 3 hours is a lot of gas, which is hellishly expensive these days. The phone calls and texts may be somewhat far in between because he may have a very cheap plan. He may be hanging with his friends because that's what guys do; they chill with each other without having to spend money; they'll spend the night at each other's places just playing video games or drinking.
QUOTE (Vendetta @ Aug 30 2011, 02:12 PM)
If this hypothetical guy has no job, that also means he doesn't have a stable income, meaning he's somewhat broke. Driving 3 hours is a lot of gas, which is hellishly expensive these days. The phone calls and texts may be somewhat far in between because he may have a very cheap plan. He may be hanging with his friends because that's what guys do; they chill with each other without having to spend money; they'll spend the night at each other's places just playing video games or drinking.
Yes i understand, but lets say he does have a steady income, lets say hes here on a student visa, and his parents send him cash. I know the nice good things he does is ...well... nice and awesome^^
Lets also say he goes to sleep at midnight every weekday, so he can call for free.
Lets also say that he does spend money everytime he goes out... and that he does not play video games...
I understand what you are saying.... So let me ask you this ..... Do you really think he likes this girl, and is not just maybe using her?
I like how you made a reason for all the situations..... ^_______^
I should relay these questions to the girl......
Lets also say he goes to sleep at midnight every weekday, so he can call for free.
Lets also say that he does spend money everytime he goes out... and that he does not play video games...
I understand what you are saying.... So let me ask you this ..... Do you really think he likes this girl, and is not just maybe using her?
I like how you made a reason for all the situations..... ^_______^
I should relay these questions to the girl......
QUOTE (mastaping @ Aug 30 2011, 02:38 PM)
Yes i understand, but lets say he does have a steady income, lets say hes here on a student visa, and his parents send him cash. I know the nice good things he does is ...well... nice and awesome^^
Lets also say he goes to sleep at midnight every weekday, so he can call for free.
Lets also say that he does spend money everytime he goes out... and that he does not play video games...
I understand what you are saying.... So let me ask you this ..... Do you really think he likes this girl, and is not just maybe using her?
I like how you made a reason for all the situations..... ^_______^
I should relay these questions to the girl......
Lets also say he goes to sleep at midnight every weekday, so he can call for free.
Lets also say that he does spend money everytime he goes out... and that he does not play video games...
I understand what you are saying.... So let me ask you this ..... Do you really think he likes this girl, and is not just maybe using her?
I like how you made a reason for all the situations..... ^_______^
I should relay these questions to the girl......
Then it could be the distance. Because 3 hours is quite a drive personally. He may be using her but I don't know what this hypothetical guy is like IRL. He could easily be using another girl that's closer too. Who knows ::shrugs shoulders:: But I do think this girl should just be blunt with him and ask him directly where they stand and why their communication is lacking; it's ok to address your insecurities to someone who you care for.
well relationships are complicated and this clearly is one of those communication issues. personally i like to call my girl, but only if i feel like she calls the same amount as me. I don't want to come of as the clingy one in the relationship. for me it's once the girl starts to call me on a consistence basis, i start to call without really thinking about if i'm coming off too clingy.
from what i can tell these two people are still breaking ground in this relationship so taking it slow is never a bad thing (even though, 4 months is pretty long, but each relationship has its own pace).
The whole hanging out thing is the same deal with the phone calls. He doesn't want to be emotionally taken advantage of either. If he's not a teen and has gone through a few relationships and/or crushes, he's, probably, realized rushing into a relationship with a lot of high hopes can cause a lot of heartache in the end. So keeping distant is a way for him to protect himself.
If the girl hasn't seen any flirty texts from other girls on his phone or any other indication of cheating, then she shouldn't be worried. But if she has caught him lying or seen some sexting then she should make a surprise visit some time or when she has extended free time, she should present the offer to ride back to his place and stay overnight
. Seeing his response will tell a lot. if he's happy about it then he's in the clear, but if he makes some excuses and she brushes them of, but still insists he doesn't want her to come then he's hiding something.
from what i can tell these two people are still breaking ground in this relationship so taking it slow is never a bad thing (even though, 4 months is pretty long, but each relationship has its own pace).
The whole hanging out thing is the same deal with the phone calls. He doesn't want to be emotionally taken advantage of either. If he's not a teen and has gone through a few relationships and/or crushes, he's, probably, realized rushing into a relationship with a lot of high hopes can cause a lot of heartache in the end. So keeping distant is a way for him to protect himself.
If the girl hasn't seen any flirty texts from other girls on his phone or any other indication of cheating, then she shouldn't be worried. But if she has caught him lying or seen some sexting then she should make a surprise visit some time or when she has extended free time, she should present the offer to ride back to his place and stay overnight
. Seeing his response will tell a lot. if he's happy about it then he's in the clear, but if he makes some excuses and she brushes them of, but still insists he doesn't want her to come then he's hiding something.
A guy here on a student visa and gets money from parents.
Meets a girl here but drives three hours in order to see each other.
But, the guy doesn't go to school and doesn't work???
Okay, now we have a situation where the guy must be a gangster.
Time spent away from her must be spent with the boys ... building rep
and doing stuff that the gang needs.
My advice is to confront and learn the truth.
No good can come from a dishonest Long Distance Relationship (LDR)
Meets a girl here but drives three hours in order to see each other.
But, the guy doesn't go to school and doesn't work???
Okay, now we have a situation where the guy must be a gangster.
Time spent away from her must be spent with the boys ... building rep
and doing stuff that the gang needs.
My advice is to confront and learn the truth.
No good can come from a dishonest Long Distance Relationship (LDR)
sounds like a convenience relationship. its easier for the guy to get poontang by driving some miles than trying his luck in girls he cant score with.
and for the girl, she doesnt need to worry about the guy breathing down on her since she is far away. she can play with that guy and others and those men would have no idea.
and for the girl, she doesnt need to worry about the guy breathing down on her since she is far away. she can play with that guy and others and those men would have no idea.
Lets say they do spend the night at eachothers places... And let's say he's not a gangster n dies go to school but is not in yet cause of something personal... So he's not a gangster
Talk to him and find out why he has to abruptly leave. If the reason sounds legit, then I'd gamble on the relationship for several more months.
In life we have to take chances.
Best wishes
In life we have to take chances.
Best wishes
Based on what you said I think she should spy on him lol, there are some really good spy phones which look like regular Nokia and since the guy appears to spend a lot of time in his car I'd say to hide one underneath his seat.. also one under his bed hihihi lol, if she wants to spend some dough on it there are also hidden camera and record devices concealed in alarm clocks, tissue boxes etc. ... once it's been found out he doesn't see somebody else I'd say the timing's right to ask him whether he's serious about the relationship or not, at least she'll know that he's answering in a honest way even if he says no
even if she doesn't spy on him she'll find out the truth anyway - be it later than sooner.., as it's quite difficult for somebody to lead a succesful double life...
anyway I hope he's not on this forum.. cuz that would be really awkward....
even if she doesn't spy on him she'll find out the truth anyway - be it later than sooner.., as it's quite difficult for somebody to lead a succesful double life...
anyway I hope he's not on this forum.. cuz that would be really awkward....
QUOTE (chiuchimu @ Aug 31 2011, 12:47 AM)
Talk to him and find out why he has to abruptly leave. If the reason sounds legit, then I'd gamble on the relationship for several more months.
In life we have to take chances.
Best wishes
In life we have to take chances.
Best wishes
Lets say he always tells her the reason, because he is meeting friends.. You know what i was thinking the same thing, This girl should hand in the relationship for a few more months... I mean... its not like the girl has anything else going on .... Except for the fear she is being used....
QUOTE (fivers @ Aug 31 2011, 05:08 AM)
Based on what you said I think she should spy on him lol, there are some really good spy phones which look like regular Nokia and since the guy appears to spend a lot of time in his car I'd say to hide one underneath his seat.. also one under his bed hihihi lol, if she wants to spend some dough on it there are also hidden camera and record devices concealed in alarm clocks, tissue boxes etc. ... once it's been found out he doesn't see somebody else I'd say the timing's right to ask him whether he's serious about the relationship or not, at least she'll know that he's answering in a honest way even if he says no
even if she doesn't spy on him she'll find out the truth anyway - be it later than sooner.., as it's quite difficult for somebody to lead a successful double life...
anyway I hope he's not on this forum.. cuz that would be really awkward....
even if she doesn't spy on him she'll find out the truth anyway - be it later than sooner.., as it's quite difficult for somebody to lead a successful double life...
anyway I hope he's not on this forum.. cuz that would be really awkward....
lul
Hmmmm lol lets say the girl is not such a good spy lol
And maybe the girl does not want to spend money on spy phones lol unless they come with a cheeseburger n fries in mc donald happy meal lol
You are right about the double lives thing....
Well thinking about it myself... i can see why this girl in this hypothetical relationship would be nervous.... Its clear she is beginning to fall for this guy, and fears that her heart may be broken..... Its pretty clear that the guy "likes" the girl, as he has said so and seems to do nice things for her such as cooking her meals, and sending her noodles. and driving 3 hours to see her.... why would a guy do this if he did not like a girl right? Its also clear she really likes him as she drives 3 hours to see him and cooks him meals also... [b]Lets throw another wrench in this situation.... Lets say the guy recently (less than a year) has gotten out of a very serious 5 year relationship with someone who he would have married but cheated on him..... do you think that has anything to do with things being the way they are? Maybe why he tries to keep distance from the girl he likes......????????????[/b]
Just talk to him,ask him how he feels,where does he think this relationship is going.Is that so hard?
QUOTE (DOUBLEMINT @ Aug 31 2011, 11:22 AM)
Just talk to him,ask him how he feels,where does he think this relationship is going.Is that so hard?
Im not the person in question here lol
Um dont you guys not like to be pressured?
Um dont you guys not like to be pressured?
QUOTE (mastaping @ Aug 31 2011, 11:26 AM)
Im not the person in question here lol
Um dont you guys not like to be pressured?
Um dont you guys not like to be pressured?
I like girls to be honest with me.Dont know about other guys.
I would think for a guy who doesn't have obligations of school or job would have more time to spend with his friends than the average Joes and he virtually has all week to do so. But for him to also want to see his friends on the only day that he's spending with the girl raises many questions. Isn't it clear what his priorities are?
Not to mention the possibility that there may be another girl involved that he may feel obligated to seeing "at certain times". If I was the girl, this is what I would do:
Ask him to consider not making plans with his friends on the same day he's spending time with her. If he shows that he can on a consistent basis, there's a bit of hope left for this relationship. If he refuses to, it's best to move on. If the guy is serious about the relationship he would step out of his comfort zone and makes necessary changes.
Not to mention the possibility that there may be another girl involved that he may feel obligated to seeing "at certain times". If I was the girl, this is what I would do:
Ask him to consider not making plans with his friends on the same day he's spending time with her. If he shows that he can on a consistent basis, there's a bit of hope left for this relationship. If he refuses to, it's best to move on. If the guy is serious about the relationship he would step out of his comfort zone and makes necessary changes.
QUOTE (SacredG @ Aug 31 2011, 11:44 AM)
I would think for a guy who doesn't have obligations of school or job would have more time to spend with his friends than the average Joes and he virtually has all week to do so. But for him to also want to see his friends on the only day that he's spending with the girl raises many questions. Isn't it clear what his priorities are?
Not to mention the possibility that there may be another girl involved that he may feel obligated to seeing "at certain times". If I was the girl, this is what I would do:
Ask him to consider not making plans with his friends on the same day he's spending time with her. If he shows that he can on a consistent basis, there's a bit of hope left for this relationship. If he refuses to, it's best to move on. If the guy is serious about the relationship he would step out of his comfort zone and makes necessary changes.
Not to mention the possibility that there may be another girl involved that he may feel obligated to seeing "at certain times". If I was the girl, this is what I would do:
Ask him to consider not making plans with his friends on the same day he's spending time with her. If he shows that he can on a consistent basis, there's a bit of hope left for this relationship. If he refuses to, it's best to move on. If the guy is serious about the relationship he would step out of his comfort zone and makes necessary changes.
Yes that was my question too.... actually now that summer is over he will be going back to school.
But lets say that he likes to be alone sometime and just sit in his apartment and watch cops .... so i guess hes not out with his friends all the time... Yes though i agree with you the girl should probably grow a pair and ask the guy whats up with the whole time slot thing?
But lets say that he likes to be alone sometime and just sit in his apartment and watch cops .... so i guess hes not out with his friends all the time... Yes though i agree with you the girl should probably grow a pair and ask the guy whats up with the whole time slot thing?
QUOTE (mastaping @ Aug 31 2011, 10:00 AM)
Yes that was my question too.... actually now that summer is over he will be going back to school.
But lets say that he likes to be alone sometime and just sit in his apartment and watch cops .... so i guess hes not out with his friends all the time... Yes though i agree with you the girl should probably grow a pair and ask the guy whats up with the whole time slot thing?
But lets say that he likes to be alone sometime and just sit in his apartment and watch cops .... so i guess hes not out with his friends all the time... Yes though i agree with you the girl should probably grow a pair and ask the guy whats up with the whole time slot thing?
That would be wise for the girl to do. She has to look out for herself too and I wouldn't consider that "pressuring" since the girl is giving him choices he can freely make.
Also, to ease her fear a bit- I think he's investing a lot of time, money and energy on her. I wouldn't necessary think he's using her. There are other reasons why he doesn't spend more time with her. A 3 hours one way trip can be tiresome even if that trip is only once a week.
QUOTE (SacredG @ Aug 31 2011, 12:15 PM)
That would be wise for the girl to do. She has to look out for herself too and I wouldn't consider that "pressuring" since the girl is giving him choices he can freely make.
Also, to ease her fear a bit- I think he's investing a lot of time, money and energy on her. I wouldn't necessary think he's using her. There are other reasons why he doesn't spend more time with her. A 3 hours one way trip can be tiresome even if that trip is only once a week.
Also, to ease her fear a bit- I think he's investing a lot of time, money and energy on her. I wouldn't necessary think he's using her. There are other reasons why he doesn't spend more time with her. A 3 hours one way trip can be tiresome even if that trip is only once a week.
Yes im sure that will be an ease to this hypothetical girls fear....^____^
QUOTE (mastaping @ Aug 31 2011, 08:22 AM)
Well thinking about it myself... i can see why this girl in this hypothetical relationship would be nervous.... Its clear she is beginning to fall for this guy, and fears that her heart may be broken..... Its pretty clear that the guy "likes" the girl, as he has said so and seems to do nice things for her such as cooking her meals, and sending her noodles. and driving 3 hours to see her.... why would a guy do this if he did not like a girl right? Its also clear she really likes him as she drives 3 hours to see him and cooks him meals also... [b]Lets throw another wrench in this situation.... Lets say the guy recently (less than a year) has gotten out of a very serious 5 year relationship with someone who he would have married but cheated on him..... do you think that has anything to do with things being the way they are? Maybe why he tries to keep distance from the girl he likes......????????????[/b]
ah that changes the situation as he appears to be the serious type and not a player which I first thought given your doubts about him using her.. now I see this 3 hour ride in another light although it's realistic to keep in mind guys after break-up can be in this 'just wanting good times phase thing' - I watch too many soaps so don't focus on that though, because honestly which player would ride 3 hours if he could just play the local girls (unless he's Mr. Casanova and already played all the girls in his neighbourhood lol).. >back to serious: only she can really find out by gauging his reactions when abording the topic, therefore it's indeed a good idea in order to ease her mind to ask him "what's up with the whole time slot thing" and see how the situation evolves from there...
Is he on here? If not, why not post all the details instead of slowly releasing them, that way it will give a clearer picture of the situation.
- Have their been weekends where the couple have been unable to meet up, or have they met every weekend for 4 months?
- Is it possible for the girl to spend time at his place during the week?
- Has she met his friends that he spends time with?
- What do they talk about?
- How comfortable is she talking to him about her feelings and how comfortable is he talking to her?
- How close are they and how openly do they talk?
- How scared are they about saying certain things?
- Have their been weekends where the couple have been unable to meet up, or have they met every weekend for 4 months?
- Is it possible for the girl to spend time at his place during the week?
- Has she met his friends that he spends time with?
- What do they talk about?
- How comfortable is she talking to him about her feelings and how comfortable is he talking to her?
- How close are they and how openly do they talk?
- How scared are they about saying certain things?
QUOTE (fivers @ Aug 31 2011, 04:43 PM)
ah that changes the situation as he appears to be the serious type and not a player which I first thought given your doubts about him using her.. now I see this 3 hour ride in another light although it's realistic to keep in mind guys after break-up can be in this 'just wanting good times phase thing' - I watch too many soaps so don't focus on that though, because honestly which player would ride 3 hours if he could just play the local girls (unless he's Mr. Casanova and already played all the girls in his neighbourhood lol).. >back to serious: only she can really find out by gauging his reactions when abording the topic, therefore it's indeed a good idea in order to ease her mind to ask him "what's up with the whole time slot thing" and see how the situation evolves from there...
I think that would be a good idea for the hypothetical girl to ask the hypothetical guy that question word for word lol
QUOTE (SemperFidelis @ Sep 1 2011, 06:11 AM)
Is he on here? If not, why not post all the details instead of slowly releasing them, that way it will give a clearer picture of the situation.
- Have their been weekends where the couple have been unable to meet up, or have they met every weekend for 4 months?
- Is it possible for the girl to spend time at his place during the week?
- Has she met his friends that he spends time with?
- What do they talk about?
- How comfortable is she talking to him about her feelings and how comfortable is he talking to her?
- How close are they and how openly do they talk?
- How scared are they about saying certain things?
- Have their been weekends where the couple have been unable to meet up, or have they met every weekend for 4 months?
- Is it possible for the girl to spend time at his place during the week?
- Has she met his friends that he spends time with?
- What do they talk about?
- How comfortable is she talking to him about her feelings and how comfortable is he talking to her?
- How close are they and how openly do they talk?
- How scared are they about saying certain things?
Er Um... because this is a hypothetical situation...XD
Lets say No this guy is not on this forum.
And there have been a couple weeks where they do not see eachother, mainly because he has plans with his friends.
When the girl drives over to dallas she does stay with him at his apartment, however she cannot during the week because of the fact that its 3 hours away and he has school, and she has work ..
Lets say no she has not met his friends... none of them... but she does hear about them....
Lets say they talk about alot of things conversation comes easy to this couple... they talk about hmmm random things... their past growing up. past realtionship. language since he is korean improving his english and she is hmm born in america learing korean... they talk about food, music... movies.. pretty much everything... never a break of silence... unless the girl is stuffing her face with the food he made her.
Hmm lets say this girl is not too comfortable talking about her feelings to this guy with anything past "i like you", and the guy may be the same, since all that they have concluded it that they like eachother and glad they met....
How close are they hmmm i would not say entirely close... however there has to be some trust or friendship going on since the guy being as private as he says he is, still tells the girl personal stuff about him and his family life. They talk pretty freely to eachother pretty open.
Im not sure if this hypothetical guy is exactly scared of saying certain things... maybe he is maybe he isnt... i say this because sometimes when the guy drinks too much makkeoli he tells the girl he loves her lol and and that he is so glad he met her and wish she lived closer... but only when he drinks.... And the girl... Im sure shes scared of saying anything that may lead to her losing him...
Lets say No this guy is not on this forum.
And there have been a couple weeks where they do not see eachother, mainly because he has plans with his friends.
When the girl drives over to dallas she does stay with him at his apartment, however she cannot during the week because of the fact that its 3 hours away and he has school, and she has work ..
Lets say no she has not met his friends... none of them... but she does hear about them....
Lets say they talk about alot of things conversation comes easy to this couple... they talk about hmmm random things... their past growing up. past realtionship. language since he is korean improving his english and she is hmm born in america learing korean... they talk about food, music... movies.. pretty much everything... never a break of silence... unless the girl is stuffing her face with the food he made her.
Hmm lets say this girl is not too comfortable talking about her feelings to this guy with anything past "i like you", and the guy may be the same, since all that they have concluded it that they like eachother and glad they met....
How close are they hmmm i would not say entirely close... however there has to be some trust or friendship going on since the guy being as private as he says he is, still tells the girl personal stuff about him and his family life. They talk pretty freely to eachother pretty open.
Im not sure if this hypothetical guy is exactly scared of saying certain things... maybe he is maybe he isnt... i say this because sometimes when the guy drinks too much makkeoli he tells the girl he loves her lol and and that he is so glad he met her and wish she lived closer... but only when he drinks.... And the girl... Im sure shes scared of saying anything that may lead to her losing him...
QUOTE (mastaping @ Aug 31 2011, 08:22 AM)
[color="#8B0000"]Lets say he always tells her the reason, because he is meeting friends.. You know what i was thinking the same thing, This girl should hand in the relationship for a few more months... I mean... its not like the girl has anything else going on .... Except for the fear she is being used....
In a few months from now if things get closer but this issue persists, Ask if you can come along, you want to meet more of his friends and know him better. If he says no - Ask why.
Definitely give it a chance, but walk away from a dead-end relationship also.
QUOTE (chiuchimu @ Sep 1 2011, 01:41 PM)
In a few months from now if things get closer but this issue persists, Ask if you can come along, you want to meet more of his friends and know him better. If he says no - Ask why.
Definitely give it a chance, but walk away from a dead-end relationship also.
Definitely give it a chance, but walk away from a dead-end relationship also.
Yes im pretty sure the girl would like to ask to come along, and why she is never invited along...
*sigh* Im getting the impression this girl is pretty tired of relationships.....
*sigh* Im getting the impression this girl is pretty tired of relationships.....
QUOTE (mastaping @ Aug 31 2011, 12:12 AM)
yes lets just say this was a situation lol....
Shall we assume that the guy is an AF member?
QUOTE (Teshub @ Aug 31 2011, 11:39 AM)
sounds like a convenience relationship. its easier for the guy to get poontang by driving some miles than trying his luck in girls he cant score with.
and for the girl, she doesnt need to worry about the guy breathing down on her since she is far away. she can play with that guy and others and those men would have no idea.
and for the girl, she doesnt need to worry about the guy breathing down on her since she is far away. she can play with that guy and others and those men would have no idea.
Driving 3 hours for a relationship doesn't sound like a convenience relationship to me. I don't know, maybe he has a peculiar personality if he is doing it for convenience.
QUOTE (Cha @ Sep 2 2011, 01:53 PM)
Shall we assume that the guy is an AF member?
Driving 3 hours for a relationship doesn't sound like a convenience relationship to me. I don't know, maybe he has a peculiar personality if he is doing it for convenience.
Driving 3 hours for a relationship doesn't sound like a convenience relationship to me. I don't know, maybe he has a peculiar personality if he is doing it for convenience.
No hes not an AF member....I mean! lets just say he is not an AF member o.o
And yeah driving 3 hours every other week seems .... not convenient ... true why cant he find a girl in Dallas, where he is at... Hes attractive, and has a fun personality, I'm sure other girls would love him... Er I mean if this guy wasn't only a hypothetical guy lol
I'm thinking he was really hurt in his past relationship..... idk...
And yeah driving 3 hours every other week seems .... not convenient ... true why cant he find a girl in Dallas, where he is at... Hes attractive, and has a fun personality, I'm sure other girls would love him... Er I mean if this guy wasn't only a hypothetical guy lol
I'm thinking he was really hurt in his past relationship..... idk...
Hehe......I'll assume that you didn't explain it in a factual way.
QUOTE (mastaping @ Sep 2 2011, 03:13 PM)
No hes not an AF member....I mean! lets just say he is not an AF member o.o
And yeah driving 3 hours every other week seems .... not convenient ... true why cant he find a girl in Dallas, where he is at... Hes attractive, and has a fun personality, I'm sure other girls would love him... Er I mean if this guy wasn't only a hypothetical guy lol
I'm thinking he was really hurt in his past relationship..... idk...
And yeah driving 3 hours every other week seems .... not convenient ... true why cant he find a girl in Dallas, where he is at... Hes attractive, and has a fun personality, I'm sure other girls would love him... Er I mean if this guy wasn't only a hypothetical guy lol
I'm thinking he was really hurt in his past relationship..... idk...
Some guys that are raised in a manly tradition find it hard to express feelings. for such guys, getting emotionally hurt is hard to handle. Maybe there is something about you that makes you approachable from his viewpoint. something that makes him feel safe about you?
As long as he is not using you to cheat on someone, then go with it. You have something that's worth 3 hours of driving! I think that's pretty good odds in your favor.
QUOTE (Cha @ Sep 2 2011, 02:28 PM)
Hehe......I'll assume that you didn't explain it in a factual way.
Of course i didnt....
QUOTE (chiuchimu @ Sep 2 2011, 10:30 PM)
Some guys that are raised in a manly tradition find it hard to express feelings. for such guys, getting emotionally hurt is hard to handle. Maybe there is something about you that makes you approachable from his viewpoint. something that makes him feel safe about you?
As long as he is not using you to cheat on someone, then go with it. You have something that's worth 3 hours of driving! I think that's pretty good odds in your favor.
As long as he is not using you to cheat on someone, then go with it. You have something that's worth 3 hours of driving! I think that's pretty good odds in your favor.
Yes I think this is a good conclusion to this hypothetical situation.... Just go with it....I think this girl should make samgyeopsal for this guy this coming weekend... And just be happy and enjoy the company^^
QUOTE (mastaping @ Sep 3 2011, 07:53 AM)
Of course i didnt....
Yes I think this is a good conclusion to this hypothetical situation.... Just go with it....I think this girl should make samgyeopsal for this guy this coming weekend... And just be happy and enjoy the company^^
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