Hi AF,

As a Hong Kongese born in canada, I've recently noticed in my school (and everywhere in Canada in general) that most of the Chinese here are having relationships with people who are from HK with Mainlanders. Most of the mainlanders have moved/lived here long enough to become integrated enough with Canadian culture, but as most HK people would know we really care about our culture and making the distinction that we are HK'nese, and not from the mainland. But given the growing class warfare back in HK, I feel that this poliltical tension is having somewhat an adverse affect towards HK'nese views with Mainlanders...

This brings me to my current situation, because I currently have an interest in a girl from the mainland. Shes lived here quite a long time, so shes quite courteous, has manners, etc. But my parents unfortunately don't think I should be dating someone born from the mainland. I myself have strong feelings against the government of China, but I feel conflicted in myself for part of me liking this girl and other half (and my parents) telling me not to have a relationship with her. To be honest, I feel quite bad about myself for allowing politics to hold me back from my love. My parents are still an issue though.

So I guess my questions would be:

1) What should I do in my situation??
2) Is the trend the same in other places? (like usa, canada, australia, britain, even HK)

Thanks for your time.

i don't think it matters that much anymore. in some of the hk love films. they show the characters falling in love with someone from the mainland in the past Few years.

follow your heart and see what happens.

Thanks for your reply. I really honestly would start dating her, but the political tension b/w HK and M. China is growing ever so stronger. I just talked to my parents about it over again (they dont know about me and her) and theyre still sticking with their no mainland girl policy. I'm very conflicted. Politics is something of my interest and hobbies...but I don't wanna let this interfere with my love life

Those feelings are for the government though so why should they transfer over to the people, especially her? Will her political beliefs conflict with yours?


What are their reasons? Are they logical? If its "because shes a mainlander" then ignore them. If you're going to be in a relationship with someone, instead of listening to prejudiced opinions and stereotypes about your potential partner, get to know that person and see if your personalities are compatible and complement each other.

holy $hit people. are they trying to raise a bunch of war driven lunatics and supremacists or nationalists? get with the program already. mix it up and dish it out. china having been supported by western nations for eons and should move on to the next step, which has been around for ages in western nations; and that is, have a whole bunch of mixed ethnic bloodlines of the same race.

if I were you, I'd say the fu-k with the parents' selfishness. I will sleep with and wake up to the one I love and to be there for me to start my own family.

I don't see a problem here.
If you have spent enough time in Canada that you're assimilated into the culture
And your love interest is also assimilated into the culture ... where is the problem???
Does she recite quotes from Mao's red book???? ... hehehe
Does she want to move back to the mainland to live her life???
Does she want to have children??
These things seem more important than what your parents think.
Remember you are going to be living with your girl ... not your parents.
You've got to make a choice of who is more important in your life.
Are you ready to grow up and be a man who decides for himself???

Whatever you decide ... good luck to you

I guess you're just not that into her. You know what, just leave her in the friend zone.