My friend, who is Indian(duh), she said that her father is going down to Fiji and Australia to find her a husband and she's really pissed and mad and etc...

So...What do you think about them? Are you gonna have one? Were your parents in an arrange marriage?

My parents' marriage was arranged. And so was my sister's. But my sister had a choice, either they arrange or if she has someone in her mind. I'm definitely not going to have an arranged marriage. I'll marry for money j/k


I can understand why she is pissed. I would be too if my dad did something like that. But then again my dad doesn't believe in arranged marriages in these days. He was really mad when my mother arranged my sister’s marriage

arranged marrages usually happen due to the fact that your parents know the grooms parents in a way that if there were to be problems, the fmily could resolve this, so I can see why it's practiced, however I am against it, and my parents try to arrange all the time however, luckly my sisters and I have a say so they really can't cause I always tell them there's something called 911 and the Police if ever I was to be forced etc.

I don't see any problem with arranged marriages. They are ok in my book.

There is a lot of bad press surrounding them, but much of it is just unecessary hype. You really do get to know well who you're marrying before you marry them. And the whole process is one that is shared by the parents, groom, bride, bride's parents, etc. It may sound odd to westerners, but its really just another wonderful part of Indian culture (which is not as bad as the press portrays it).

I agree with the media putting too much focus on the force marriages. But then again, who will read about a regular Indian wedding?

yeah, i never thought about that i thought it was a bad thing

one time on the news, they were interviewing indian couples and asking them how their arrange marriages always worked out or something like that

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i think it's okay; but then again I guess it all depends on the individual.

My parents' marriage was arranged too and they turned out
okay... sort of. But i wouldnt marry the guy of my parents' choice. I tell my
dad lots of times that i marry whoever the heck i want and he nor my mom have
a say in it.

my boyfriend will married...it's arranged marriage and his bride is not me!!!!!!!!

^oh my gosh! Wow i feel sad for ya...

Awww, I'm sorry, honeynut. There is no chance that your boyfriend can get his parents to change their mind?


I kind of would like an arranged marriage. Since I'm gay, if my gay marriage were arranged, it would mean my parents accepted my orientation. (I'm not being funny here, this is really what I think about ... Especially since I'm 25 and lots of straight friends are getting married now.)


Also, even if I weren't gay, I think I'd be comfortable with arranged marriage. If both sides consent and the "arranged" part of it is just parents introducing you to the other person and consenting, which is apparently how arranged marriage mostly works for the urban middle class nowadays, it's just matchmaking which makes relationships easier.

When it's something like honeynut's case though, then I'm unhappy with it.

well i dont see why people should look down on arranged marriage.at times it works at times it doesnt.and even in love marraiges it has its ups and dwns!

[really sorry to hear tht!

i think i agree with your view since im in the same situation as you!!

Gay arranged marriage. That's a first. I never heard of it.

Bravo! The meaning of life is do exactly what you want to do.