I have to admit my husband does all the work in the bedroom...soft touch....being rough all that good stuff...but now he is telling me he wants me to be more attive...the problem is I dont know how....Im used to laying there like a star fish...my question to you is how can I over come being low self esteem in the bedroom.

hahahaha..you act like your so shy of your husband..look...he's your husband..don't be so shy..don't be afraid to touch him..cuz where ever you touch him..it'll make him happy.and just think like this

whatever makes him happy makes me happy

I think it's time for you to explore the vibrator and watch a couple of good pornos. I'm serious! Once you know what you want and how you like it (i.e. how to get the O), you'll be more into it instead of letting him do all the work.

And if you're not willing to do that, then there's always a steak and a blowjob.

buy a sex toy.

more liek it.


you might wanna explore a sextoy store with your husband, you know get some kinky toys and play around a bit. the problem i see here is that...you are not comfortable with your body. So with hepl of the new toys, hopefully you can fully explore, understand and appreciate your body.
So first conquer your fears in the bedroom Take baby steps, we can't become sex gurus overnight

Fake post..

become a dominatrices

lol, couldnt help but laugh

better example

^ Wow.. I wanna wear that. <3

nice

NEIN! I thought girls always play with sex toys.

My advice is try to spice up your sex life (even if it means resorting to anal and blowjob).

I think you've got a psychological problem. Try take up a new hobby or do something different in your daily routine (not to do with sex) and hold off the sex as long as possible.

Roleplay.

Read romance novels all day and not have sex for a month.

You'll go nuts enough to practically assault him for sex then.

Viola !

Roleplay only works for a couple weeks, then you get tired of it. Too much effort lol.

married. Duh....

If you don't have the mojo then watch some porno movies or get really drunk.

you suck at the life. you arent pleasing him and he is probably cheating on you.

So? Still applicable.

My sex life is boring too. I'm with you on that. Lols.

Come on over, I give free lessons Seriously though, you should be more open with your hubby and ask him to guide you through the motions.

What the fu-k...how did you ever get married?

kiryapanda,
Why don't you just go and read some related books or stuffs on the internet?
There are lots of info there.
You can't really rely the posts from this thread.
And, I am sad that some people are making fun of you.

study kama sutra

...maybe you've never really have been sensualized? just blame others.

or you could once, be the aggressor,...climb on top of him, scratch, claw, nibble, and maybe even bite. Let him know, that you desparately need his body love,...hold him down and pin him with your body. Lean in with your pelvis and gyrate,...

oooOOOooo,...getting naughty ideas,...*freeze!*