More men convinced marriage leads to life of misery

Marriage means misery, according to Spa! (2/14), which claims it has the stats to back up its contentious claim.

Japan has in recent years been plagued by the joint problems of people waiting longer than they had to marry, having fewer people tie the knot and a greater number of couples who do pair up splitting again some time down the track.

According to the Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare, Japan's marriage rate has dropped 9.9 percent over the past 10 years, while the divorce rate has skyrocketed by 26.5 percent over the same time.

Spa! says this nixing of nuptials is simple -- people have finally cottoned on to the fact that getting married eventually leads to disappointment.

A poll of 100 married men from 25 to 35 showed that 58 percent regretted ever marrying, with 35 percent of these guys -- with an average marriage of 4 years and 11 months -- saying they have rued their wedding day at least 10 times since it happened.

Divorce counselor Atsuko Okano is not surprised.
(By Ryann Connell)
February 14, 2006

http://mdn.mainichi-msn.co.jp/waiwai/news/...0dm024000c.html

true..marriage can add more problems..your own crap to deal with wont go anywhere.

i wonder why mostly it's men that regret marriage?

Because the wife always go shopping with money that the husband make.

thats stupid. a magazine poll comprised out of only 100 men. anyways. roughly about 50% also in america would probably think the same thing. there is a lot of divorces here anyways.

this is why all the japanese women ends up marrying a white guy.

But it's fun to torture our men

The other 42% haven't been paying close enough attention then.

Maybe because the husband has to stay at the office until 10PM to compete with his coworkers and resents having to support his wife.

58% regrets getting married, that means they prefer being wood (single).
Wood (singlehood) can also be interpreted as not entering or ending a financial relationship which you think you are being taken advantage of or are not willing to support.

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Exactly

People are just stupid about marriage these days. Worldwide.

US divorce rate is what, 50%? fu-king insane.

its higher in england. i think near 60% or at least close to it.

The divorce rate trippled the past year in America. The main reason I think? Too many morons are getting married at 20 - 24. They fall in love with "the one" and instead of using common sense and maybe waiting till they're older with stable jobs and a degree they rush into it and fu-k up. I know a bunch of engaged people younger than me and a few who even have kids now. It's amazing how stupid people get when they're "in love"

I think it's safe to assume that divorce will be an integral part of your marriage.

three words: drive through chapels

That poll can't be true, is it?

it's all about sex in america. teenagers are getting honier and honier after they hit freshmen year in high school. after they broke their virginity for the first time, their bodies wants more and more. then after they had enough sexs with their gf/bf, they want to settle down by getting married. this is when disaster start happen in a marriage relationship.

meh

nah, the problem is people don't actually care about personality. they just care about attraction. if something is wrong with their partner they'll "deal" with it (until it blows up). not to mention most people seek instant gratification and instant gratification in the long run equals bad.

I think people look for degrees and money, especially in America.

In a partner?
What about in Japan then? What do they look for?

true. but also a lot of people confuse a lack of passion for a lack of love. also in america (not too sure about other countries) finance is the number one reason for divorces.

I think the bait for love and committment from a man is how much the woman is able to provide in terms of tuition bill, rent, down payment, mortgage, utilities, car payments and credit card bills. The worst scenerio is marrying a PhD want-to-be.

You think thats what men look for?
What kind of deadbeats have you been dating?

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actually its true. las vegas has some drive through chapels . just go through the drive through n all . they call some of them the "tunnel of love"

yeah . men live longer and are happier in marriage. and for women its like the opposite in a lot of cases. dunno why really. and yeah i heard of that thing aobut japan too. if not the lowest than maybe near there. Greece is number one supposedly. i dunno why . some say its because in japan the men work all day and then just come home tired... dunno.

Men live longer? No they dont........
As for the sex thing.....no idea.....most of the people I know are of the sense of 'if your partner and you arent having sex then one if not both of you is getting it elsewhere'

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How'd you mean?

lol thats why I'm confused, most if not all the japanese I know are at it like rabbits

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lol since when do koreans not have a lot of sex?
They're just more conservative

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lol in-the-closet?
Hmmm......Koreans.....a nation of gays............that never really sprung to my mind before

Pffff......whereabouts in SK are your parents from?

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lol thats cute, my parents met at uni.

Married the same year? Bloody hell....

uni... nice. haven't found anyone at my uni yet.

Where was the uni? Kor or Japan? Thinking of going to Korea or Japan to study abroad..

yup.. they were married within 2 months. I always tell them that they were insane. lol.

*are we spamming this thread? lol

Men aren't exactly known for looking forward to marriage anyway

@sun.hee
I'll reply in the random thoughts thread in the lounge before we carry on going off-topic

Again, I think love and affection for a guy has to do with the $ sign.
I was at a wedding where a classmate of mine and her husband attended. We were at the reception that followed. I noticed that my friend's husband who is an engineer just could not get himself away from her. They were really lovy dovy. She is not at all a pretty girl. But mind you she passed her CPA exam which I understand is very difficult.

You're all dating deadbeats
Just because he married a woman that wasnt particulary pretty doesnt mean he wanted her money, beauty is subjective

younghee, once again you're trying to base an entire generalisation on your limited experience. Since the stereotype is that women are more interested in a man's financial situation than vice versa, surely this implies that the experiences of others (the majority) are in contrast to your's?

Jaimu-Jaimu what time zone are you in?

GMT...but I'm working on assignments.

married men live longer than single men. while single women live longer than married.. statistically speaking.



hey. most adults i know period has sex and a lot have a lot. no biggie.

I thought statistically married men lived 7 years less than men who are single

i heard that single men had a 250% higher mortality rate than single men. they need a woman to straighten them outz

Yeah I heard that too.

Married men live a lot longer than single men, mainly because married men take fewer risks. They eat better, smoke and drink less and get in fewer bar fights. Married men adjust to the expectations people have of fathers and providers, and they have somebody taking care of and nagging them. Even if married men don't take fewer health risks, the benefits of companionship and caregiving are so powerful that one study found married men who drank and smoked lived longer than single men who didn't drink or smoke.
source
also i heard the married men lived longer too in psychology. find me a source where they didn't live longer