QUOTE (Sirius_GTO @ Mar 23 2006, 09:37 PM)
Hi guys. I would love the advice from anyone who has been/is in college.
Right now, my mother is deceased, my dad is facing financial difficulties, and my sister out of the picture doing her own things. I have rent to pay, bills to pay, and food to pay for. I work 4 days a week, and I hardly find enough time to study as well as enough money to cover myself. And when I do have time to study, i am too stressed with the fact of work, bills, bills, and my father, that I can hardly concentrate.
Is it such a wrong thing to do to temporarily drop out of college for a year to work and save up money? Nowadays guys don't graduate until they are mid 20s any ways. My father is on the verge of having no money, and no car, and I NEED to help.
I am sure, as a vietnamese community, that we all understand the difficult position I am in. We all understand what family means to each of us.
Another question I had was for the others that are IN college. Is it possible to withdraw from all of your classes past the drop deadline date? Without taking a F?
Thank you guys
If you decide that the right thing to do is to withdraw, try to arrange a leave of absence way before you register for your classes. If you are already registered, then withdraw while you can get a good refund. If it's too late for that, then arrange an appointment with the dean of your school and with the financial aid office of your school to explain your situation: you are not the first student nor will you be the last to be in such a predicament, so be frank and straightforward. Lay out your situation, and ask them what are your options: who knows? The school might be able to arrange some extra financial help for you. However, if you don't ask, you don't get. The worst that happens is that they say no to any refund, but you already knew that coming in, so you did not lose anything.
No matter what happens, do keep in mind that the most important thing to you is that you be able to withdraw without taking any F's but for that to happen, you need to convey your situation to the dean so that he makes an exception for you due to your hardship situation. You need to come across as a responsible, mature young person who is facing a tough situation not of his or her own making, and who needs to know what the options are. The desire to save money so that you can have some home stability while you study is perfectly legitimate and puts you in the "responsible person" category - In this case, you are not dropping out but taking a leave of absence.
In the meantime, I wish you good luck. And do feel free to ask for advice. We'll do what we can.