i'm 25 and married. i've been married to my husband for a long time. we're both the same age so I didn't get married to some old fart . i love my husband with all my heart but i have to admit, i'm a horrible wife . i'm not the typical old fashion hmong wife that cooks and clean for the hubby. i say, screw that!!! my husband gets a home cooked meal, by moi, only when i feel like it. if not, it's ramen noodles and eggs or what ever we have in the house. sometimes i'm so good, i can even cook Mc Donald's

dishes are done by both of us. if i'm in the mood, i'll wash it. if not it'll pile up for a FEW days and then either he or I will do the dishes.

i do the laundry. when i'm in a good mood i'll wash, dry, fold, and put away the clothes (well hubby does socks cause i hate pairing socks together). on lazy days, i'll wash and dry. the dry clothes will be put into a basket until we're out of clothes in the closet.

i know that some of you guys will say you'll smack some sense into your wife if she was like me but i'm just lucky my hubby ain't like that. I do appear all loving-wife when in front of the in-laws and guest. In fact, i play the miss wife-obedient-yes.master wife(cooking and getting drinks)when we have guest .

anyways, i'm just curious as to what type of wife are you -or- what type of wife do you have?

I'm not a horrible wife I don't think...I'm a horrible person maybe because I talk smack all the time especially about subjects I disagree on and my husband gets the worst of it. Hmmm...poor thing.

I get up really early in the mornings...like I can't sleep past 7 a.m. for some reason, and I get bored so I do cook. I love to cook, but I hate to clean. Most of the time, I'll cook and then my husband gets up and eat, then after that we negotiate on who's going to clean up our son (messy eater) and who's going to clean the kitchen. No trading after the decision has been made.

I do laundry on Sunday mornings and that has to be done before I do anything else, then my husband puts it up. If the sheets and comforters need cleaning and I wash them, then my husband has to lay it out on the beds again or put it away nicely if I'm intending to change sheets on the beds. Cleaning the house is split up between my husband and I. For an example, if I clean up the master bath, master bedroom, my sons toy room, the utility room, and the guestroom, then my husband will have to clean the living room, kitchen, office, and the main bathroom. And we switch every so often.

I think ya'll get the idea. Everything is shared in our house...my in-laws and everyone knows it...my husband is very cooperative and loving...he understands that because both of us work outside of the home equally hard, then we should both work in the home equally hard also. Sweet huh? All the older folks, don't think so, but I just take it as, they don't understand not one bit!

Yay for good men!

ya kno, if I had a wife, she would do as I say, kind of like a slave, he he j/k, it would be nice if she complies after all I am the all mighty, love caring lets not forget most loyal husband, a wife especially a hmong wife should not be lazy, some or most hmong parents have very little patience to tolerate that kind of rudeness, back in the early days most hmong girls are taught at adolescent age to work and serve, that’s why our moms always seem to be cleaning around the house or formally greeting serving people when they are over, I don’t think learning these practical things are hard, in fact they’re way easy but some girls just reluctant or should I say careless to learn, but it don’t matter, you have to make up for your laziness by finding a husband who cooks and cleans......yep, so good luck finding one!

You are so lucky. I have to admit my husband will not do that. He will help out but he will never finish it. Sometime I even get a headache for trying to tell him to help out so I rather just do it myself.
But I'm also not the best wife either.

My wife, well can't really complain about her. Couldn't ask for a better partner, but dammit I can't read minds. What is up with females and expecting us husbands to read their minds. They sure can't read minds.

well my wife and i are 4 years apart, but we're a great couple. we've been married for five plus years now and i think that we can communication issues very well. i do my thing and she does hers. i know that there are times we get on eachothers nerves, but she is great to me. i'm an easy person to live with. i eat very simple, hot dogs, eggs, noodles, i could eat the same thing all day long. i do not need no fancy meal to staisfy my appitite, but my wife usually makes me a nice meal. usually 2-3 dishes at dinnertime. lunch and breakfast is always very simple but dinner is always great. she does my laundry, cleans the house, takes care of the kids, man she's super wife. haha. it's great that she's such a great person. she does all this and it's not that i make her do it, she just does it. even during new years, she lets me go and meet girls and party with my friends. like she says as long as i know where i stand and who i am then she doesnt care. i think i couldn't have found a greater partner!

i'm not married. but i tink this is the new generation. we just dont tink like the older generation. husband and wife are equal. i believe i wont be the ideal wife. haha. ^_^

My husband and I just got married in February 09 of this year (2007). The wedding isn't until April 14, 2007. Anyways, I would consider him to be a very nice, generous, superb and many more. He helps out a LOT in the house. When I am going to cook, he usually comes and take over, which makes me look bad because my mother-in-law would always be there, also, she's old so I usually tell my husband that he makes me look bad by doing that but he doesn't care because He loves me and doesn't want me to do it by myself. We usually split up the jobs around the house, although, we are living with my brother-in-law and his wife's house, which they are my husband's brother and sister-in-law. So far, we are all cool and young so yeah. My mother-in-law knows the system in America that the only way to be very successful is EDUCATION so she encourages her kids to go to college, which they do, including my husband, which I am very proud of him. He is four years older than I am, although I wouldn't care because I prefer someone older who can support me in every ways. So, let's just say that I'm 18 so he's 22. I'm a freshmen in college. He's a sophmore or junior in college so he'll be done by next summer. Anyways, yeah, we believe in EQUALITY. If a guy doesn't believe in equality then I wouldn't date or marry him.

awww... this is so cute - u guys r cute ^^... even though i'm not married... it just makes me feel a giddy and fuzzy inside to see others happy with their relationships.... if i ever get married, it will be after i'm done with at least one year or two of college - preferably when done w/4 years... but who knows, i may not get married at all... somehow though, i see it as when i'm around 23 - 26... got a few years to go >__<...


if i ever do get married though, since i was a lil girl, i've always had these pathetic fantasies of being a good wife - definately not a house wife though. I will provide as equally as my husband does. Actually I want to be an orthodontist, so i don't know if i'll always be home during the day : /... But i'll definately make him dinner, and do the house work as a women should - like the cleaning and organizing & designing! (my house will be nice:P) BUT once in a while, he should appreciate me and take me out to dinner : P I don't know, but somehow i don't think guys really know how to put up with house work, esp., cleaning... when i look at some people do it, it bugs me, cuz they're only giving like 25% the effort and the 75% is laziness and they're only doing it because they couldn't refuse....

i'll be a loving n devoted wife........... humm.. when it comes to chores... i'ma a lazy@$$!!.. my mama never made me clean or cook.... but i do clean after myself.....so yeah.. .........even though i'm not a wife yet.. n not sure if i will be ..but i sure can predict... =) HAHAHa i think i just got too much women power in me.. LOL... i gotta wear the pants!!

Seriously is there any guy that is willing to play the role of a housewife while I go out to work?And he must accept the fact that I can't cook,knit and hate doing housechores. Also he must be easy-going and patient enough to stand my bad temper and bossiness.

its good to know that i'm not alone on this.. LOL

to sponge_girl,
damn, i'm wondering how clean is your house...my mom probably smack me if i were that way.

my uncle and his wife don't take care of their house much. i'm scared to sit or walk in there house. when we go over to their house, i usually just stay outside until we leave. their house scared me into always keeping our house clean (which is my job since i'm the only unmarried daughter in the family now)

i'm not married yet but i have to say that it's been ingrained in me to always keep the house clean. the only thing i can't do is cook very well but i'm practicing. newho, that doesn't mean i'll do everything, my future-husband will definitley have to help and i won't be shy about telling him to too.

Try not to be too happy or misfortune just might visit you.

I'm a guy and I don't mind doing the dishes and cooking or even staying at home. Although I am away from home at college, I usually help out when I am at home, so whenever I get married, stil single, I will probably be the one cooking adn cleaning, but I like to cook and clean. Does that sound weird to you guys?

hollah!! HAHAHAHAHAH jk no that's not weird....LOL i have a lot of male friends who likes to cook ..hehe n they're some bad@$$ cook too.. but i dunno about cleaning.. ehehhe

I'm a guy for one, and I do believe in equality between housework, cleaning or whatever may be the case. Being this day and age, it's not uncommon for a husband to share the house chores. But I believe that every guy out there they still have that picture in mind of that ideal wife. That wife to come home to with a warm cooked meal on the dinner table, you know, just that warmth and confort that comes along with having a wife, if you know what I mean. But you know, I'm not going to enforce it any way, whatever the situation, is whatever the situation. And from as long as I can remember, I've always done house chores when I lived with my family, groomed and picked up after myself so I'm open-minded about how things can be done. But you know, it sure be nice to have that ideal wife...