Do you parents or In laws live with YOU?

according to research 2/3 of all elderly parents live with their children(in Japan). (Tsuya & Martin 1992)

I like my own personal space I'm not sure I could deal with this

Iv'e been waiting too long to have my own things ( with my children and wife of course)

I couldn't imagine waiting to go to the rest room because of my Honorable father/Mother is using it.

I wouldn't mind too much if he/she is cool though

example: Supportive of me and my wife's desisions (especially about culture) and not go behind my back and tell my children(the future)wrong things.

responses please.

You're getting married?

in about 2-3 years yes, I'm just getting ready now choosing names searching for wives looking for common ground as far as culture and personality is concerned. I want to completly respect my wife so I want to know evrything I need to know (not possable I know ) , but I'll try.

This is a pretty common and important aspect of the culture. I think it's the same for most other Asian cultures as well, but your elders and parents are revered. They have taken care of you for years and expect the same in return.

I think the wife usually moves in with the husband's parents though.

Yes it is common, not only in Japanese culture to. As the country becomes more urbanized though the trend has been shifting away from this.

Yeah, its very common in Asian cultures, I know for certain that Indian and Chinese cultures also have parents moving in with their kids at old age.

Usually, its the sons that take care of the parents, so basically, the wife usually moves in with in-laws.

Its not really a bad thing, I mean, you take care of the people who took care of you during your upbringing, but once they get older, they usually let their children take care of the greater responsibilities and just let them be completely independant. I know thats usually what happens with Indian people, and if its similar in Japanese households, then really its not a great problem to live with parents.

At most, there may be privacy issues, but even then, parents aren't stupid and will most probably give 'kids' their privacy.

It just seems like you move out of your parents house, just to let them move in with you.

I know privacy isn't a big thing in Japan, but I feel as if my wife couldn't walk around in her ( night clothes ) if her parents were watching.

depriving us of a normal intimate time.

It's just traditional culture though. I'll see what happens when it happens I guess.

I moved to Japan from Brazil by myself 7 years ago but there are many Brazilians in here Nagoya, so I wasn't lonely

On average how much does it cost you for everything to live in Japan?