is it having a laugh, trust, love, marriage, friendship n etc

Family

Money

Success

(Safe) sex with sluts

Marriage with a woman I can respect.

friends and family that would go to the seven hells and back with you.

the accpetance by the han chinese majority.

Me, Myself, and My Life!

That should sum up my Most Important Things

Lord Krishna, Family, Friends, and (more) money (would be nice).

Let me guess. Does virginity include itself with the women that you respect?

I never will understand this "Sex with sluts, virgins for marriage" thingie. If it weren't for those "sluts," you boys wouldn't even be able to have sex in the first place.

My fiancee, my family, my friends and my sense of self.

I don't accept the notion of "virginity" (a purely western concept)

A virgin is someone who is innocent about sex...ergo there are no virgins after you enter the teen years. Ill-informed teenagers should not put themselves under pressure of "losing it" and should not deride those who don't "lose it" quickly.

If my marriage is arranged then the girl will be sexually inexperienced....if it's a love marriage then I accept what I get. The first will give stability, while the second will give fun (for a while).

What do you mean? Do you think a virgin doesn't have the capacity to cheat on you? There are also non-virgins that don't know what they're doing in terms of the "fun" factor.

If you found out your virgin bride was raped, would you still refuse her even if she had sex against her will?

Are you insane?

If someone raped my wife I would hunt him down and cut his balls off...and then stuff them down his throat.

Why the hell would I leave my wife??

I've met Desi boys that say that they would never marry a woman that was raped. I asked them why, and they said "Because she's not a virgin. It doesn't matter if it was against her will. She's still spoiled".

The reason why some raped Indian and Pakistani women don't seek out justice and keep their rape a secret is because they're scared noone will marry them....because they will just be viewed as not being "pure" anymore.

There was an article about a middle-eastern women who ran away from home, because her parents were going to kill her because she got raped. The fact that she got raped made her impure, and the family didn't want to have a non-virgin daughter spoiling the family's reputation. I mean, it wasn't even her fault!

Oh you meant before marriage...but is it during the engagement, during the pheras around the fire, when exactly

if the lady was raped then I doubt if either she or her family would be ready to celebrate a wedding...the most important thing would be to get over the trauma, counselling etc.

The second would be to bring the perpetrator to justice (if they are Rajputs or other hot-blooded people then they would mete their own form of justice...described above by me)

Man I feel like a schoolboy with EY as the nasty headmistress (virgin! non-virgin! answer quickly or I'll spank you!). The whole thread ruined because of a fun remark by me.

Here's a counter-question...

What if your future husband was raped...by another man!

Would you still accept him?? Because for him the trauma would be even more...

But that lady will be married eventually some time in her life. Someone could still turn her down if they found out she was "tainted", especially if the rape was publicized lin the news like Mukthi Mai's case.





Yeah. It wasn't their fault, and if I loved that person and he was right for me..it shouldn't matter.


I have worked with clients at my intership that were trauma victims...So I'm prepared for that. -Don't forget you're talking to a future therapist here. thumbup I will be dealing with traumas everyday!

Family [marriage, kids, parents]
career
$$$$$

my family, my friends and being with someone who loves me as much as i love them.

It's actually worse for men...even in the Mukhtar Mai case people have forgotten her then 12-year old brother who was first sodomized by the gang of upper-caste Muslims.

I remember in the early 90's a case where two or three teenaged Kashmiri boys were brutally raped by the Pathan commander of a terrorist camp in pakistan. Sent back to their homes to act as porters for terrorists, these boys were eventually rescued by the Indian Army.

It was shown on TV. They were so traumatized that they revealed their horror story to their rescuers and the story leaked to the media. One of the parents said about his raped son, "His life is finished. Who will marry him now?"

And they were right.

The comments from people about these now grown-up men are appalling:

"He has lost his manhood."

"How could he let himself be raped? Is he gay?"

"If he can't protect himself, how will he protect my daughter?"

So what I was trying to say was that hypocrisy about rape, virginity, and manhood cuts across gender lines.



In my list of important things I forgot to add the most important....HEALTH!

After all, in order to engage in sexual calisthenics with sluts I will need to be in peak physical condition.


Oops....I did it again!

What if people think you're too much of a manwhore to be married to their daughter?

Happiness is the most important thing. Now to reach it, fu-k, thats a whole nother story.

power, money and sex what else?

You mean if I have an arranged marriage...

Well since I don't intend having any emotional attachments to the sluts (purely a fcuk and forget arrangement), and I WILL NOT fool around after marriage, it really won't matter.

Reactions from people will range from:

(shrugs) boys will be boys

(nudge-nudge) what a stud!

(nodding) he knows what to do in bed.


Ah! The joys of being a MAN

Family/Health
Money
Power

....then the rest follows

Money - Sex (both at the same time would be better)

You're such a besharam larki. It's okay though..if I was a guy, I would still marry you.

why ppl keep saying family who care's about that once you got money and power!

And, Desis wonder why people criticize them for preferring male infants over females.

You need family to fight off loneliness...especially when you're older, when the spring in your step is gone, and your body is wracked by pain and stiffness.

What if your kids have the same attitude towards you?

peace of mind

simple im not haveing kids and im dieing young, and i wont be lonly

I take it you're planning to get AIDS? So you can die young?

Not only do you get to die young once you find out you have AIDS, but you also get to have lots of sex while you're on the way trying to get it. Okay...I get your point now about sex being more important than family.

They accepted you already.

Happiness.

Hahaha, I wish. I have fair skin and yet most Chinese people don't like me. My uncle and his business partner both agree that without a doubt China is the future, and love the business and social environment that exists in the prosperous costal cities.

^ Speak mandarin. They will lave you.

You also have double-lidded round eyes and a high nose bridge.......That along with fair skin...what's there not to like?

i dont wana get aids if i have unprotected sex i might noc up a chick and i might die younger then i planed if i do

Just curious who is the guy in the picture?

it's northwestern student. We're trying have cross-cultural exchange in our signatures, but he doesn't come to India chat anymore

Do you currently live in China?

I have been Hong Kong and Macu(sp?). I would love to vist this place http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DqETN2qu-fU

NOTHING.

dat cant be true der has to be something that makes you want to live your life.

I think i live for good times, the fun we have with friends, traveling and experiences. noting physical or emotional just memories