Have you ever loved someone from a different culture/background...what was it like the things you learn or gain or even hardship you had to overcome if any?

Well i'll lead by example if i may.
When i was about 15 i meet a japanese girl ,sixteen at the time, who became very special to me and has remain that way in my heart since. Even though we were young at the time we knew we genuinely cared for each other. we spent almost two school semester with each other and connceted on many levels. T

There were however one problem I myself am not japanese and i felt tension and a constant conflict with her family and friends. initially i thought if i let them get to know me and my true feelings for my girl friend they would accept me. But my foolish wish were to be crumbled when her father told me "you are not worthy for my daughter, your not even japanese"! and forbid us from seeing each other in the future.Having baned us from a relationship we begun to see each other secretly but in time it begun to sour, and my childish schoolboy pride made me distance towards her. She eventually moved back to kyoto and although i had an address i took a bitter long time to write to her, three years after we parted to be correct. Sadly i never got a reply. I often think about me and her and how much in love we were and blame myself for not standing my ground and beliving all the things people said to put us down. I heard of a good qoute from someone recently it goes "you never regret what you do, you only regret what you don't do." The time i had with this girl was short yet very ,very sweet and THIS no one can take away from me. For personal and private reason i chose not to write any names ect. and pls feel free to write anonymously...you know what i mean its your story that counts.

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well then logic dictates don't post.

ifeel you man, hopefully fate will put you guys back together

eh i dont know much about love as i've yet to experience it but love IS love. who cares if they're from a different background. My parents would LOVE for me to marry a korean chick but eh chances of me marrying one is very slim cause i'm just not attracted to koreans. Although i love and respect my parents, i'm not going to make myself only exclusive to koreans. I'm the one who's going to live with her not them. its my life, they're going to have to deal with it.

"your not good enough for my daughter?" thats really fu-ked up. who are they to decide? if you make her happy than why arent you good enough?

but eh with all that said, eh things happen for a reason. if it was meant for you guys to be together you will me, if you werent than you'll find someone else... dont mop about it, move on.. there's more to life than a girl.

i have dated someone that is not viet. How life is good! i don't let 1 gurl tie me down!

Yeah I did it twice, but either way I never met the parents so we didn't have tension like that.

If some guy told me that I wasn't good enough for his daughter I would just say "fu-k you" and bounce. For real, cuz obviously I don't wanna disrespect the guy by continuing to see her so I might as well crack on him.

I understand what you all are saying, I take your words in consideration. Looking back I regret being so passive with the whole situation I should have been more firm to my love

yes i have moved on. Right now I am dating someone from the same culture as me and i guess we make each other happy. But, some memories from the past lingers with you and i guess thats just being human.

My main objective for this post is to primarily see how many people dated outside their imediate race; therefore their are two many prejudice and stereotype amoungst us asian people. And i thought this would be the optimum post to bring different culture together under a universal essence that is more precious and powerful than hatred, "Love"!

Judging from the number of people who have read this post as to the number of people who have actrally post something, i theorise the following: either they have not been with any one outside their race or they might have thought it was a little too private to share on an internet website lastly they might even viewed my post as to be boring and irrelevant. What ever the reason I hope it is not reason number one because there is great beauty and joy being with someone from another culture. There is so much you can learn, teach and appreciate from each other. Well as usual i've said too much...enough with my babbling.

I dated a white girl for 2 years solidly. You could say she was my first love.
It was difficult at first because my parents have always been a bit frosty. They just said "we'll treat her as one of your friends but we won't take it anymore seriously than that". Her parents were really cool about me, I was on first name terms with them and got on pretty well.
I finally had to make a stand with my parents and when I showed them that I was serious (and in love with this girl) they just respected my decision and accepted her as my girlfriend. I mean they let the two of us backpack around Europe alone together.
(I wonder if they still think I'm a virgin )

haha... I envy you.

Lol
My parents are pretty liberal by Asian standards and I'm hella thankful of that. Some of my friends have super strict parents.

culture or race?


because people who are born in diff places other than their native land, has a diff culture


IMO, who cares what their culture/race is

being hella fine is being hella FINE~!~! (hott is hott)

where are the hot chicks?

many of the guy's i've dated have been outside of my own ethnicity

I thought u were a guy

well i never loved the guys i dated that were out of my nationality...one was white, and the other was black...well i was kinda falling for the black guy..but i broke up with him...b/c i know my parents would never approve of us dating at all...

I don't understand why so many people break up with people they care about because of their parents. My parents have told me so many times not to get involved with white women or even bring em to the house(they think all Asians are racist anyway). But I do anyway(well not to the house) and tell them if they ask about it. If they're going to act racist and ignorant that's fine with me as long as they don't tell me how to live my life because of THEIR racial problems.

haha nooooo

yes well...i know what you mean...we were young back then...like 16, 17...or whatever...i am not about to get kicked out for dating a black guy even if i was falling for him...i'm the kind of gurl who wants to make my parents happy in everything i do...my parents would disown meh forever...my step sis got pregnant by a black guy..my mom never liked her or her son...my step dad never liked the fact that she got pregnant by a black guy...

i am dating a white guy lol parents dont know about it and we;ve been going out for a year and a bit hehe tho id prefer and oriental guy.

"how you doin~~"